SIL is throwing us a shower soon. Which I was totally cool with, and I was really excited about it at first. Now that things are in motion, I'm starting to get uncomfortable about it.
Initially, it was going to be a small thing with family members who would be in town for Christmas. When she asked if she should invite the family members who live across the country, I said maybe it wasn't a good idea because we know they wouldn't be able to come. She thought that it was a good way to "sneakily give them our registry info for gifts!", not so much that it'd potentially hurt someone's feelings by not being included. Which was what I was more concerned about at the time, before I really started thinking about how bad it looked.
Maybe I'm missing the point that it's supposed to be a 'shower', but I feel like it's tacky to knowingly inviting people just so they can get our registry info to send presents. Am I wrong? Maybe since it's family, it's not so bad, but I still feel awkward about it. I don't want people to think it's just a gift grab. :(
To top it off, apparently SIL's family (mom/sister/*her* SIL) and DH's aunt's in-laws have been invited since they will be in town as well. I hardly know any of these people, if at all. :(
Also, at work, one of the professors in my department is pregnant and due around the same time as I am. About a week ago, we all get this e-mail inviting us to her baby shower and for everyone to come and bring diapers and a present. (For her 2nd baby, and a dual professor income family at that.)
Thing is, the woman sending out the invites, sent them to EVERYONE in the department (150+, that's including the staff/faculty/the grad students). Seems SO freaking tacky, and I know a bunch of people were taken aback by it. From what I heard, the prof didn't even want the shower, but the woman forced her way into doing it. (Awkward.)
I work directly with this woman on a daily basis, so she knows me pretty well, knows what's going on with things. (Even if I don't want her to know, she's so flippin' nosey.)
While I was in the office making copies of stuff, someone was in the other room asking her if they were throwing us one. All I heard her say was "Why would I do that? They have people to do that for them." If anything, I thought that was rude to say while I was within earshot. :(
Non-preggo hormone me wouldn't care and wouldn't want all the fuss, but I still ended up crying about it! Thing is, honestly, I don't want that woman throwing us a shower...it'd be a mess and all about her anyway.
Is it weird that I'm getting upset about these things? I feel like I'm losing my sanity sometimes by how much little tiny things get to me all of a sudden. :(