I hope this won't be too long. We have been doing really well with attachment parenting since our LO was born. However, now that she's hit her "toddler" years, she's become a major handful- whining, screaming & crying constantly, fussing, not listening, hitting, biting, spitting- all the "bad" behaviors.
However, I have always felt that at her age, she can't really be "bad", but our parenting style can determine how she behaves. We have tried everything we can think of to be gentle to her- redirecting from a negative activity to a positive one, encouraging play, letting her have lots of freedom/ saying yes when we can, and trying to let her learn her environment in healthy ways, rather than cooping her up in a high chair or pen all day.
Here lately though, we can't seem to get it "right". Her behavior is out of control- I am worried about how she acts when she's away in church nursery and when she's interacting with other kids. I SAH with her right now, but I am planning to go back to school soon, so daycare is in her near future.
I don't want to spank her, but my H is thinking it may be a good solution. She seems too little to understand time outs, and I am not sure what other choices we have, if any.
Does anyone have any encouragement/ book suggestions/ links I could read/ tips/ etc? I am running out of steam with my attempts to parent gently.q