I (and most of my friends) live about 3 hours away from all of my family. My aunt has offered to throw me a shower back where my family lives, but I think that this is too far to ask my friends to drive to attend a shower. I was thinking I would keep that shower to just people in the area.
What I'm not sure about, though, is what to do with my friends locally as I'd like to include them and do something, but I feel weird throwing myself a party and no friends have officially stepped up to do it (there was some initial mention, but everyone is very busy and we're getting close to the timing when if there is going to be a party, it needs to be planned soon). Is it okay for me to just invite some girlfriends to lunch to celebrate rather than call it a shower? I don't need anything big and don't want to imply that I'm asking for presents. Also I'm not sure what the ettiquette is in that case for paying for food as I really can't afford to buy everyone lunch (unless it's a small group). Anyone experienced something like this? Thoughts? Should I still send invites to my family shower, even though I know that no one would be able to make it?