I will begin by saying DS is 11 years old.
DS express how happy he was when he found out he was going to be a big brother (told him about 4 weeks ago). Last week he woke me up during the night and he told me he was scared that when this baby come that we will not love him anymore and all our love will go to the new baby. To help him feel better, I let him finish the night in bed with me (mom and dads bed always made me feel better as a kid).
A couple days ago, during an argument about homework, he told us that when the baby comes we will not love him anymore and we are going to "ship him off" to California to live with his (real) dad. I know he may have said this out of anger at the time, but it really hurts me that he may think this is what is going to happen.
I want to keep my DS involved in this pregnancy as much as possible. We are taking and writing down his suggestions for baby names, and I would of liked to have taken him to my last Dr. appt for the u/s BUT it was done transvaginal and I didn't feel comfortable with that. I plan on taking him to the u/s where we find out the sex.
I just would like to know if anyone has dealt with this and how did you handle it? OR, is there anyone that had this issue and things were fine after baby arrived?
I will also add DS has ASD, we have a Behaviol Therepist come visit our home. I will be speaking with her about this. I am looking for moms that have actually dealt with this.
Please be nice, DS is special to me and it brings me to tears to even think he will feel unloved.