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I did one crazy thing and one less-crazy thing.
On the Social Security website, I figured out how to call up every name that has been used 5 or more times in several different years (maybe 1900, 1920, 1940, etc.?). I put them all in a spreadsheet, eliminated the duplicates, and then went through that and eliminated everything I wouldn't consider. I gave that to Jen as a starting point.
The less-crazy thing was buying The Baby Name Wizard, which has partly the format of a traditional baby name book, but also 100 pages of "Style Families" to help you figure out what kinds of names you like. (As an example, my son's name fits under "Timeless" and "Antique Charm." My daughter's name fits under "Ladies and Gentlemen.") I found it to be a really helpful book.
In the end we each made lists of our top 30 choices and cross-referenced them. We named our daughter after my grandmother (but we use a nickname for daily use), and her middle name is a synonym for Jen's middle name. Our son's names are just two that we liked. Jen's favorite boy name is #2 in our state, so we used it as a middle name.
Twins are hard. We wanted similar style/feel, but different first initials, nothing rhyming, and no famous pair - especially since we have boy/girl twins and had to avoid romantic pairs. You have to find things that each sound good alone and with your last name, and sound good together. It was a very fun process though - and we absolutely love the names we chose:
or, Meg & Henry
(aka Nutmeg & Buddy, Lady Baby & Mister Baby, Meggers and Henny Penny)
If I'd been picking alone, they would have been Octavia and Emmett.
If Jen had been picking alone, they would have been Emmeline and Alex.
Lots of compromise!
Like Leap, we had to find 2 names that were similar, not matchy matchy, etc.
I'd heard Grayson years ago and really liked it. We'd agreed on it way before TTC since the Gray is an anagram of L's father's name. We scoured baby name books for a long time before landing on Carter. We liked the name and admire Jimmy Carter as a humanitarian. We decided to give Carter my dad's middle name since Gray was partially named for L's dad, which left us debating Gray's middle name. Lordy, we went round and round on that. L wanted it to be a name of someone famous we admire and was tossing out stuff like Mandela. Ummm...no. We finally decided on James for Jimmy Carter. In the end we ended up with
Grayson James and Carter Julian
I do love their names, but Grayson has gotten pretty trendy - though I do love Gray as a nickname. :)
If we'd of had a girl she would have been Emerson Annabelle.
Thankfully, we both had similar taste in names and naming them was pretty painless (well, except for Gray's middle name...)
FET #3 is December 2nd - our last frosty - please be our take-home baby!
Together 7 years and legally married in 2013!
Me: 42 (Excited to carry!) DW: 44
June 2012: First RE appt.due to age + plan to use DS
Sept 2012: Both fallopian tubes removed due to blockage
Dec 2012: Donor Egg/Donor Sperm IVF Cycle - BFP! EDD 8/29/13
Mar 15 2013: Missed miscarriage at 15w4d (discovered at 16w1d via home Doppler)
Mar 22 2013: D&E. Tests showed death due to (fluke) blood clot in umbilical
May 24 2013: Hysterscopy to remove uterine adhesion post D&E.
July 18, 2013: FET #1 - Beta 1 8dp6dt: 40; Beta 2 11dp6dt dropped to 19 :(
September 23, 2013: FET #2 - BFN :(
Last FET #3 - scheduled for 12/2/13.
We live in Seattle and used SRM for our Donor Egg IVF cycle.
I don't know about anyone else but I am hoping Will and Kate stay far away from our names - whatever they pick is going to get big, and fast.
leapgirl8:P.S.If I'd been picking alone, they would have been Octavia and Emmett.If Jen had been picking alone, they would have been Emmeline and Alex. Lots of compromise!
For us, the meaning of the name was important. One strategy that hasn't been mentioned is perhaps you could think about what meaning would be important to you? For example, meanings like miracle, joy, blessing, strength, love, etc....then search what names go with that meaning.
Luke means "light." I apparently didn't originally want to name him that (pre-conception), which I have no memory of (!), but by the time my wife was pregnant, it was at the top of my list.
We knew it would be the name when the night before the anatomy scan, my wife pulled out her "word of the day" cards and the word she pulled was light. There was no question for us after that!
His middle name, Nathaniel, means gift; it honors the incredible gift our donor gave us.
We had only been together for 1 year or so and we had heard the name Kylie and loved it. We played with different spellings to come up with what we have. Ann is A's middle name, her mom's middle name, and her grandma's middle name so we could not break the tradition of the first girl on the mother's side have that middle name. So Ky had her name for almost 4 years before she was even a thought....and in that time the name became popular and she is far from the unique name it was when we picked it.
We had a hard time with boy names as we both have different styles. I like the old fashioned/funky names, A like the more classic (popular) names. We somehow decided on Brody Alexander but I was not in love with it. Thankfully we had a girl and it did not matter.
When I was 32 weeks pregnant (and we were on a road trip to NC) A said to me, "Do you really like the name Kylie? I mean we could always change it?" Of course we spent the next 3 hours of our trip debating girl names and clearly decided she had to be a Kylie Ann.
Oh and if I had named Ky alone she would have been a Gwenivere, Emmeline, or something of that nature. A boy would have been Xavier.
I had always loved the name Gwenivere, since I was very young, and Trav liked it and had no strong feelings about girl names, so it was an easy decision. I love it because it is Welsh, like me, and very unique without being- well- made up, purposely misspelled or trendy. For her middle name, I wanted something classic, short and simple (since her first name is long). My name (Megan) is related to my mom's name (Margaret) since they both share the nickname Meg. I like that Mae was almost a shortened version of that. So she became Gwenivere Mae.
For a boy we had decided on Jack William. I loved the name Jack and it was Trav's grandfather's name. William is his other grandfather's name, and I agreed to it as a middle since I didn't like it as a first and it sounded good with Jack.
Two Mommies Healing Hearts
When we first started ttc we had a boys name and girls name picked out.
Boy: Samuel Jacob
Girl: Emma Riley
Those names were fairly easy for us to come up with. Samuel is in honor of my grandfather that I was incredibly close to (more like a second father to me) and Jacob was a name that M loved. For the girls we both loved Emma and the mn was a complete compromise. We both love traditional names in the since they are classics and we felt they age well with a child. My biggest fear was picking something cute that would not be suitable for an adult.
When we found out it was twins we tabled the name conversation until we knew the sex as we thought it was pointless to have two girls names and two boys and not use them. When we found out it was two boys, things got a little more complicated as we couldn't find a name we loved as much as Samuel Jacob. We ultimately decided to split the name and have Samuel and Jacob. For middle names we went back to family names as I didn't want one child to have a family name and one child to not. We used our brothers middle names for the boys mn so now they will be born as Samuel Glenn and Jacob Reynolds. The other easy part about the middle names is Reynolds is M's mother's maiden name as well.
Our boys will be known as Jake and Sam growing up but we love they have the choice to go by Jake and Same or Jacob and Samuel as they get older. We also felt they were strong names that would look good in any career etc. Yes we thought that far ahead.
On a side note, we really didn't care about popularity as I grew up with a very popular name, sometimes having as many as 5 of the same name in a class with me. In my opinion it wasn't really a big deal to have several kids of the same name in the same groups, teams, class etc.
stringy813:Ahh I swear those of you starting these threads have been in our house this week. We are in prime baby naming mode right now, and have completely opposite styles (as I might have mentioned earlier). LolaBelle, I absolutely love the reasoning behind Luke's middle name, and now I might go in search of some girl names with that meaning. But we already have the middle name picked (after M's grandmother) - so it would have to be perfect for a first name that we both actually like. I'm just going to assume that in the next 4 months something will come to us that is both classic and slightly trendy, and goes with our last name (which ends in -eee sound so rhymes with half the girl names on the planet).
Thanks!Here is a website with a long list of names that mean gift, in one way or another. Some are a bit of a stretch, but it's what matters to you that counts!
Our names are a secret, but her's a bit of our strategy.
I make a running list of names and then periodically share them with C, who vetos most of them.
I like unique (but not Uneek) names that have some basis in English language, like my own name which is not super unusual, but it's rare to meet another. I also enjoy what C calls "old-fashioned" names and nature names. I like looking through the SS lists and the website nymbler. When I share a name that C doesn't veto outright, or that I really love, I add it to the list. The few names we've agreed on so far have be "yep, that's it" for both of us, which feels really good.
Our kids will have a hyphenated last name (which I've used for the past five years). C's family has a tradition with initials, so she's pretty set on names that begin with C (many of which I don't love). We know if we have a daughter her middle name will be Anne (it's my middle name, my mom's middle name and my nana's first name) to carry on that tradition. If we have a son he won't have a middle name -- to carry on the three letter initial tradition. Our top first names are both short, 4 letters for "our boy name" and 5 letters for "our girl name," which is good as the hyphenated last name is long!
While we're pretty set on those names, we do have a gender-neutral name and I'd like to have a few other on a short list in case baby doesn't seem like those names when born. We won't find out the sex, so it feels better to me to have options.
Love this TONS OF COMPROMISE!!!
We had a JUST one girls name picked out and it was based off our grandmothers names. Lilka ( polish for Lilly) Mae. She is named after my grandmother and DW grandmother. It was a no brainier however people have trouble with the NON-English name and it pretty phonetic so we did not think it would be an issue. Pronounced LIL' KA oh well ... people cant get it right mainly because they dont pay attention. Oddly we were going to call her Lilly but she really is not Lilly and def a LILKA. (just like her Grandmother) The story behind her name is when my Grandmother was young and had a brother before he was thrown in the air and used as target practice by the SS agent during WWII he could not say my grandmother name GITLA (Geet'LA) so he called her LIL'KA and thus her name while she was in Concentration camp that she told people was LILKA. She was the only survivor of her family Mom/Dad and 2 brothers killed. UGG... M's Grandmothers middle name was Mae and it sound beautiful to me Lilka Mae also known as LILKA MUNSTER ( ha) and then there is the translation of LILLY and the hebrew meaning so it was just Handed to us
We had a LIST - of names for boys and we were certain that our twins wer B/G (we did not find out and were surprised) so had names and finally settled on a boys name - I am very in to traditional hebrew names and cant share the chosen one because if we have a boy we will use it ...
The dya before we were scheduled I freaked and was like we better pick out a another name just in case its 2 girls ... it was tough ...
M and I are huge Pipi Long stocking fans but knew we would get flack for naming our child Pipi hough Pippa is popular now ... I was in love with SIMONE but M veto'd it. I also likes the name Stanley for a girl ( i am a big boys names for girls or ambiguous names)I know i will get flack for that - M like charlie but her mom wears that perfume and I cant stand it ... So S was a popular letter for us but nothing was 100%
Then I thought of SLOAN its a more masculine name but could be spelled fem but i dont like SLOANE so we gave her a fem middle that pay homage to our PIPI. Sloan Annika (pronounce On'ika) so that how we did that ... We were playing with Danica (pronounced Don ''ika but looks odd spelled DONICA and DAN well eh ...
ironically the girls names both mean some form of Strength and Warrior
M loved old old names like Ruth and Ester- i like them but not enough
i love names... people can be so judgmental about them - its lame and really its your child you can name them what you want. Someone asked me if i am upset that people dont get Lilka's name right and I said no .. I just correct them and i have no prob doing so and they came back and said well how do you think she will feel having to correct her name all the time ...
I have name trama or had my name is masculine both First and Middle and my last name is super Jewish but my first name can be mistaken for a latin name which if you look at my last name you know that they dont necessarily go together ... but its was annoying as a kid and teen and i changed spelling got aka and it was a mess still is today sometimes but now I just accept what my legal name and spelling is .. took a bit but i got there... no major trauma