I've posted here before but that was months ago and I chickened out of any sleep training. Now I have a strongwilled toddler that is set in her ways. Hopefully someone can help me devise a plan because i am in need.
Another board recommended extinction. I'm just not sure I could ever do that. So, here is my story.
I know tl;dr but I would appreciate it if you did.
We have been bedsharing since day one. I stay with her for her nap around 2 hours! and bed time. I've tried leaving at different times in her sleep cycle to no avail. She always wakes up. I want her to get her sleep so I have been putting off "sleep training" and now it's getting down to the wire and it needs to be done.
I am returning to work in January and will be working evenings. My husband will have to put our 17 month old daughter 18 months then to sleep by herself. So we kind of have to get her in her own bed She will also have a sitter one night a week, so again, needs to be in her bed for that reason. And after 17 months of absolutely no me time, that might be a little nice too : Being in bed at 7pm isn't fun.
I nurse to sleep and back to sleep, she rolls over frequently during the night but at this point it is purely comfort nursing so I really need to figure out how to stop that as well and get her sleeping in her own bed. We converted her crib to a day bed. She hates being confined and is used to sleeping on a bed.
She has no idea how to soothe herself to sleep. And I even have trouble calming her at night if she gets worked up without the boob.
I'm not sure which program to try. We tried baby whisperer back in May. I lasted one day, she never slept at all and her crying never calmed down, only escalated. She might not have been ready then. She's strong willed.
I'm confused as to what order would work better as well. Cut out nursing to sleep and put her in her bed in one fell swoop? Stop nursing to sleep, then work on her bed? Nurse to sleep and put in her own bed then wean later?
And I have less than a month...am I s.o.l or do we have a chance?
Any tips or personal accounts you could give me, would be appreciated.
Thanks so much for all your help.