I need someone who is not family to help me figure what to do. My nephew is 18 months old and we are worried for him. His mother left him in our care when she left to supposedly go get her life straight. Yet she has been there 1 week and has already proven all she wants is to be laid. We are worried that she has sexually abused him as he is acting very strangely. He will not allow anyone to change his diaper at anytime and if you mention changing it he will run screaming from the room or into someone elses arms such as myself my father in law or my fiance. I gave him a bath earlier tonight and when I went to wash his genitals he started freaking out closed his legs and almost started crying. I stopped swiftly and he hugged me and calmed down slowly. His mother used to take showers with him and we would hear him crying and whining. We brushed it off as maybe he was just ready to get out and she wasnt. But at night they would be in their bedroom and we would hear him screaming at the top of his lungs for hours on end. Now that she is gone he seems happier most of the time but when we go to put him down for a nap or bed he starts screaming and throwing a fit like he does not want to go anywhere near that room. He's fine with the bathroom and our room and the laundry room just not that one. His mother used to make sexual comments when he was little about his penis becoming slightly erect whenever she changed his diaper, we all were furious and she stopped making those comments but I fear that she has done something to him. Please help with any advice you can give and please do not cuss me out I'm just looking for advice about what to do about the situation.