I am pregnant with our third child. Our first 2 are boys, with middle names from my side. Elijah David for my dad and Lucas Wesley for my maternal grandfather. My MIL was unhappy about this but it was an easy decision for us because my dad is very ill and my grandfather recently passed. DH also says they will have his family's last name for life.
This time, if its a boy we will use Matthew DH's first name or Richard DH's and FIL's mn for a middle name. But if its a girl, we love Rose My grandmother's name. We have thought hard about girl names from DH's side but there aren't ANY that we remotely like, let alone love. The best there is, is Ethel, which is so not our style.
My MIL is going to be so upset she tends to think she is the center if ever decision and keeps "score" for everything if we use another name from my side. I don't want to hurt anyone but DH says not to even worry about it, that it has nothing to do with them. I feel like its unfair but it's a big deal, you know? I don't want to compromise and pick a name, even for a middle name, that I hate!
What do you guys think? Should we try to find one from their side that is tolerable or go with the mn we love and has sentimental value ?
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Thanks so much if you read all of this!