I didn't want to take over the Extreme Fatigue post, or confuse others who are just as exhausted.
DD's problem is going down initially. I think we are missing that golden 30 minutes of actual downtime somehow. So, last night I started bedtime at 7:30 instead of 8. She had a bath, we read stories in her bed, she was excited to cuddle for a minute and was yawning. I cuddled with her for about 10 minutes and when I went to leave she had a total meltdown. I didn't get out of her room until 9:15, when I left and she had another complete meltdown where she sobbed so hard that you couldn't understand her. She freaked when DH went into the room and cried for me. I finally went back in, calmed her down, and told her it was bedtime. That was at 9:50 - she was out cold by 10 pm.
We're both exhausted. DH is exhausted and DH & I are at the ends of our ropes. I can't think of what else to do. I've tried re-ferberizing her - which we did all weekend - and it seemed to only make things worse.
PS - this kid used to sleep 8pm - 7am with a 2-3 hr nap. She started going a little later around her 2nd birthday, so around 9, but would sleep unitl 8 and then nap from 12:30ish to 3.