Being a recluse

amberrae45

I realized after turning down my third holiday party invite that I have become a major recluse since being pregnant. Some of it has to do with exhaustion and overall pregnancy miserable-ness, but I just really want to avoid confrontation about my pregancy and how "huge" or "small" I am or other stupid conversation topics related to pregancy that will inevitablely upset me.

 Anyone else in the same boat or are you enjoying going out for social gatherings?

ericalee27

I am, but not by choice and I'm really sad about it.  Due to my pre-e diagnosis, we decided to cancel all of our holiday travel plans and had to back out of a number of parties....it suuuucks.  But hopefully I will still be baking this baby at that point and that's the important thing.

Tygrlily5

I've had a tendency lately to stay at home instead of going out.  I'd much rather stay in my yoga pants

But I've been forcing myself to go to parties, meet up with friends, and think about topics to talk about other than baby. And by the end, I usually end up being glad that I did.  I think I'd go stir crazy just sitting at home thinking about being pregnant all the time!

jkuhmann

We went to a party last night, and I know what you mean about having the same conversations/heaing the same comments over and over again.  Try not to let them upset you.  I figure no one is trying to be rude or insensitive; they just don't know they are making your feel uncomfortable and by and large are just excited for you.  You can always turn the conversations the way you want them, start a on a new topic or just make a joke and move on if want to.  There are only so many things people can say on the topic until they get bored.  I'd say get out to one party and if it really is as terrible as you thought it was going to be, make the decision from there if you want to continue going out.  Remember, you might not have much of a social life when the baby gets here!

Brian'sWifey

Yes! I am always turning down lunches during the week and my girlfriends always want to get together and do something on the weekends. I turn them down every time. I just don't feel social. I've been nesting like a mad woman and working on the nursery every weekend. I told them that I'm not feeling social at the moment and they understand so hopefully it doesn't ruin our friendship.

jat0624

I have been feeling the exact same way. I hate trying to find things to make me look 'cute' when I don't feel cute at all. I would rather just stay home in my comfy pants.