A little background: I'm 26, BF is 30. We were living together and dating about 9 months when I found out I was pregnant. It hasn't been easy to cope with pregnancy in a new relationship, but 4 months later we are still together and for the most part things are great.
The biggest issue in our relationship is his parents. Prior to baby, they thought I was the best thing ever. After we told them about the baby, I became an evil leach after their sons house and money. They kept telling him how controlling I was, he deserved better, that I got pregnant on purpose. They'd call him and tell him how the baby would ruin his life. It was terrible. And he believed them. For 3 months, I had to defend myself. Needless to say, I have a very sour taste in my mouth from them. I understand they were trying to protect their son. But c'mon. We both have good careers, are stable financially. Inconvenience in timing was not a valid reason to terminate in my mind.
His parents still ignore me when we get together at family events. And I ignore them. I had enough one day when his mother came to my house and took food off my counter while I wasn't home, telling my BF I was "too fat". The night we told them I was pregnant, she looked at me and said, "You need to go to the dentist. I don't want my son marrying a woman with no teeth." Now, I never had braces, but my teeth aren't that bad! I wrote them a long, but respectful letter saying until they both genuinely apologized to me and my BF, they were not welcome in my life, or my future daughter's.
Now it's time to choose a hospital. My BF is offended that I want my mom present at the birth, but not his. I don't even want her in the waiting room. What complicates things is she is a charge nurse at the hospital that is closest to my home.
Am I out of line refusing his parents permission to be there the day my daughter is born? I want to be surrounded by positive emotions, not negative ones.