Sorry this is long and not totally baby-related (although it does pertain to showers and gift-giving):
In the past year, we've received three thank-you notes (out of five potential opportunities to be 'thanked') from weddings and showers.
The first one was literally an index card with our address and stamp on the front, and just had the words 'thank you' handwritten on the back. Took me a day to figure out who it was from.
The second one was a picture of the couple with the words 'thank you' written on the back and placed in an envelope.
Just opened the mail tonight to a whole new level of 'meh'-ness. The envelope was mass-printed with our name and address. Inside was a picture of a couple with the words 'thank you' typed out. There was literally NOTHING personal or handwritten on it. This is the same person who didn't send or say anything for her shower or bachelorette gifts.
Is this becoming the new norm? Is this, along with Facebook wedding invites, the new standard with the young kids? When I got married two and a half years ago, we hand-wrote personalized thank yous for every.single.person. I thought that was standard etiquette? It was then - what has happened since then?
Also, in the last three years we've given out ten graduation cards and gifts and received only one thank-you in return, which is why I think it might be an age/generation thing.
I don't want to say I expect a thank-you note and I don't hold it against them if I don't receive one. I just find it weird because growing up, thank-you notes were driven into my brain. I still send them out for things like letters, gifts, and holidays, as well as to people that let us stay at their place.
I'm just confused when it changed? Am I actually breaking etiquette by sending thank-you notes for gifts and kindness? And, now that my friends and family are all pregnant and will be having showers soon, is this something I just have to accept as the new normal? When I get lucky enough to be pregnant, will it be tacky to send out personal messages and thank-yous if I get cards or gifts?
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