Very Long Vent...
So my MIL is a bit of a drinker, H has been alcohol free for a complete year now. MIL lives 10 miles away from us with her boyfriend and her 23 year old daughter. She has been to our home twice in the past 3 years. Usually every year we go to her home for Thanksgiving Lunch and Christmas festivities, where we have to feel like poo because she may buy us a little gift, and we then have to sit and watch them open up New LCD TV's and Wiis and other expensive gifts. It kind of makes us feel like crap because we can not afford those things. This year H did not want to have to deal with all the drinking for the holiday. So we decided to invite her and SIL here for Thanksgiving dinner.(the boyfriend has to work and was unable to come. but he was invited) We told her we would get everything and cook everthing and she could just relax and spend some time with us and her grandson(DS1). Our only thing was that we do not drink here, so H told her she would not be able to drink here either. First she said she didn't know. Than she called back and said that her and SIL would be here. Offered to bring dessert. We told her if she wanted to.
In the back of our minds H and I have been thinking that she was going to call and cancel. But she was all fine. Last night I went and got everything for Thanksgiving dinner, Turkey, Rolls, Red Skin Potatoes, Cranberry Sauce, Stuffing, Beans, ect. Spent a pretty penny. But we were excited because she was going to come. She called H today at 10 to tell him that she wasn't going to come. Her excuse "Your sister is sick and I do not want to leave her home alone. But we are going to B-'s parents house Sunday to have Thankgsiving dinner if you want to come. Which I know you won't." Sister has a cold by the way. And I point out again, that they live 10 miles away, which is less than a 7 minute interstate drive from us to them. The Boyfriend's parents live over an Hours drive and does not know me or DS1. And sister is 23!! H got upset. He immediatley called and told me that she canceld.
It just has upset us so much that she decides to cancel a day before the big meal, with a lame excuse. We pretty much feel that it is because of the no drinking rule. She is fine leaving SIL any time her boyfriend wants to take her some where.
On a plus side, my brother and his family live below us, My mother was suprising us by coming up tonight to spend the holiday with us and leave Sunday. I had told her that we would not be down for dinner because MIL was coming, and she was fine with spending time with us later and through the weekend. I called Brother today to ask if it was okay that we came down for dinner and that we would bring food and help cook and all that. He was fine with the idea, This would have been the first year that we did not have the meal together anyways, so it will be nice to still have one more. H is okay, he loves my family, and they love him, and he is excited to see my mom too. So that is kind of good.
The thing I can not get over is that MIL would cancel this late. H has decided that this was the last straw and he no longer wishes to talk to her. We are moving near my mother in April anyways, but we were kind of feeling guilty about leaving MIL, even though she makes no effort to come and see H or DS1. Only calls when it is H's brithday, hers, or near the holidays. Wants us to always come there on Holidays, where we feel like we are not really wanted anyways. What kind of woman is this??
Thanks for listening. Time to clean up some more now.Happy Thanksgiving to everyone!!