So, let me start this off with a little background. I've always been super close with my whole family and have always been daddy's little girl. My dad just lost a 16 month battle with lung cancer with brain metastases at the end of September. My brother has two boys and my dad really wanted a little granddaughter and he got to know that's what we're having before he passed. As RN's,and kind of the rock of the family, my husband and I were responsible for the majority of my dad's care. It was so difficult seeing such a strong and independent man rely on us and so hard to see him suffer. I'm grateful to have been able to help him, but it still haunts me. I miss him every day and wish he could've lived long enough, without suffering, to meet our little girl.
On that note, I'd really like to give her my dad's first name, Dennis, as her middle name. I think middle names are generally unused, or just an initial, and no one would ever really have to know if she chose not to tell people. I like the idea of her middle name having meaning (vs. something that just sounds good), honoring him, and having him always be with the little girl he wanted to meet so much. (Side note: people kept telling me at the wake and funeral that he tried to hold on for her ... broke my heart. Not really comforting . ) Anyway, people generally think it's weird (or awesome, depending on who I talk to) and (the real issue) my husband really hates the idea of giving her a boy's name in any capacity.
What's the verdict? Think it's too weird? I think there are a lot of cases where girls are given a traditionally boy's name and it works out really well. It wouldn't be her first name and it would mean so much to me. I don't know how much to push the issue. And I don't want her to grow up hating her middle name either.