April 2011 Moms

Bitten at daycare. Picture included.

I discovered this bitemark tonight on Liam at bath-time. One other time there was a mark on him that I thought *might* have been a bitemark, but I wasn't sure, so I didn't say anything.
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I alerted the daycare provider, and sent her this picture. What would your next move be from here? I mean, if it happens again, would you pull him out? I know that kids bite, but I don't know what most daycare places do. Sorry I'm so clueless :-/

 Thanks for any help you ladies can offer!

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Re: Bitten at daycare. Picture included.

  • In the space of 2 minutes one day, DS bit my DCP's son twice and then scratched her daughter's face and neck (they're twins, 6 months older than DS).  She texted me when it happened.  I felt horrible, but she wasn't mad or anything.  It happens.  But I would be concerned that you DCP didn't tell you about it.  How did she not notice?  I can't imagine he wouldn't cry with that kind of mark!

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  • image AnjaO:
    In the space of 2 minutes one day, DS bit my DCP's son twice and then scratched her daughter's face and neck (they're twins, 6 months older than DS).  She texted me when it happened.  I felt horrible, but she wasn't mad or anything.  It happens.  But I would be concerned that you DCP didn't tell you about it.  How did she not notice?  I can't imagine he wouldn't cry with that kind of mark!

    This is what I would want to look into further. A lot of questions surrounding this would determine whether or not I would pull him out.

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  • The same thing happened to me a couple times with me oldest. One time she came home with a small spot of hair matted up in her blood. When I asked what happened, they didn't know anything about it, and that was the part that upset me the most.

    I'm not sure if pulling him out of the daycare and moving him to another will help, as this type of behaviour is quite typical for that age.

  • Yowza, that's nasty.  I have to believe that he cried from that.  I agree that your DCP should have alerted you to the situation.  I'm also curious if she told the parent of the biting child.  I'd be pissed if I was the other mom and didn't know either. 
  • I'd also be more concerned that they didn't tell you about it either immediately with a call, or later that day when you picked him up. It looks pretty darn nasty, they should have known what happened to cause it since he would have been crying over that severe of a bite.

    Our daycare tells us of any bruises (typically falling on face, or walking in walls) or scrapes (falling at the park), DD has never been bitten <yet>.

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  • Well, we know toddlers often bite. My question is where is the bite mark? I can't tell from your photo what part of the body that is on - I'm guessing it is on a part of Liam's body that is normally covered by his clothing, hence your discovering it at bathtime? And that could be why your DCP didn't inform you - they didn't know it had happened. As wonderful as our 2 teachers are in DD's room, I know they have a max of 8 toddlers in their care and they can't possibly witness every single push, bite, or other transgression that may occur in tiny people who can't express themselves fully in a verbal manner quite yet.

    I would see what their response is - I'd assume they would adress your concerns and tell you how they typically handle known biting incidents to ensure the safety of the kids / address it with the biter (shadowing for triggers, having the biter apologize and help get ice for the bitee, separation of the kids, for example).

    I would not automatically jump to the conclusion that this is somethign to pull him over.

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  • Like everyone else I would be concerned that they didn't tell you about it, but I wouldn't rush to pull him from the daycare. I think biting is kind of common at this age so that will probably happen anywhere. I would bring it up with the DCP and see what they have to say about it and then go from there.

    And poor Liam, I hope he's ok now! 

  • Thanks, Everyone! It was on his back, near his shoulder blade. The daycare provider knew which child it was. There is a little girl who is a biter. I wouldn't pull him out over a first incident, but it is somewhat "Lord of the Flies" sometimes when I'm there. She's a woman who watches her two little grandkids and then a few other children. Where we live, there are very few options for daycare since it's so rural.

    He only goes to daycare for a few hours on Monday and then all day on Friday. I appreciate your thoughts. I really just wasn't sure what to do. I think I'd be more worried if he spent more time there :-/  

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  • My son was bitten at day care a few months ago... right on the face.

    I understand that kids bite, it happens, but I would be really concerned that they didn't tell you. FIL picks up DS from daycare and on the day he was bitten FIL had to sign an incident report stating that he was informed of the issue. He has to do this every time DS is hurt in some way (he tends to bite his lip when he falls, so we have signed several of those).

    I can't be a ton of help since we use a daycare center rather than an in-home provider. The incident reports are part of their rules and regulations. I would talk to the provider and just ask that you be informed when something like that happens just so you can properly care for the "wound." You don' have to phrase it in an accusatory tone, you know? I would bring it up though. It's concerning.



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  • My DS has been bitten three times in the last six weeks...once behind the arm (the worst one, it drew blood and scabbed over for a week), once on the wrist (barely a mark), and once on the cheek (moderate..it bruised over the weekend). We're pretty sure it's the same child. Oh, and he got bitten once on the finger, but that doesn't really count because he put his finger in another child's mouth. Total accident. :)

    Each time it happens, DS's daycare writes up an accident report and lets us know. I get upset when it's bad enough to bruise or scar (your son's looks like the one that bruised on DS's cheek). However, as PP's have said, this is 100% an age for it. If you like the daycare otherwise, I wouldn't consider it grounds for removing DS as long as things like this don't continue to happen regularly. The DCP should have let you know, though.

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  • Chase was bitten on his arm at daycare a few months ago.  I got home and there was a perfect bite-mark on his forearm.  Our daycare provider is usually great about reporting anything that happens, so I figured she didn't know about it.  I called her to let her know what happened.  She said she had heard Chase start to cry, but the other kids (older siblings of the 2 year old perpetrator) told her Chase had gotten his finger stuck in the mouth of a dinosaur toy.  The kids were put in timeout for lying/biting and we haven't had any problems since.   I figure, these things happen. I remember biting my brother when we were kids, and I can't guarantee that Chase will never do something like that.  I wouldn't pull my kid from a daycare because of one instance, though I would certainly let them know what had happened.
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