I used these boards quite often during 1st pregnancy with DS 3 years ago and now we are excepting DS #2 in April. I have a dilemma with DH regarding names and I was hoping to get suggestions.
We are pretty set on the first name as Owen and the debating middle name. I know middle names really shouldnt be stressed over. But DH wants to use FIL's real name. The problem is FIL's name is Arthur Elmer. Now neither of us love that name, and actually FIL doesn't even go by that at all. Since childhood he's been known as "Bud". I LOVE FIL dearly and couldn't think of a better person to name DS after. (He's been there for me way more than my own father)
However I cannot go with Arthur due to personal reasons from my past that DH doesn't know about. (and not sure how my family would feel about it either). So I asked to use Elmer (again don't like it that much, but would be a great tribute to FIL). DH really wants Arthur and doesn't like Elmer. We've talked about other names and have a few in mind we like, but DH is pretty insistant that a middle name MUST be named after someone.
Should I? :
1. Just shut up about it an agree to use Arthur to please DH and FIL
2. Continue to try to to talk DH into using Elmer or find another middle name
3. Tell DH my reasons about not liking Arthur and maybe he'll understand (though not sure I can do this...)
4. Can you use Bud as a middle name? ;)
TIA for reading!