Sorry, I know I've had lots of shower questions recently, but I'd rather ask you guys and risk being flamed than ask my friends in real life and have them think ill of me... So several people have come up to me saying/asking, "I'm throwing you a shower" or "Can I throw your shower?" I'm very appreciative of their offers, although I really am okay with not making a big deal out it. That being said, no one has mentioned when they plan on throwing them.
My SIL who lives out of state, 6 hours away, said she wants to throw one with the people DH grew up with and their family friends. She mentioned this to DH a few times a couple of months ago but hasn't mentioned it since. The other three are in the area; one for work and two with family and friends respectively. While I know the work one will be during the work day (we look for any reason to throw a party here), I don't know when anyone else is throwing the shower other than "in January". This is fine except that January is going to be a really busy month for DH and I and I'd feel bad if it feel on a weekend we couldn't go.
Would you ask the respective hosts when they were thinking to do the showers? I don't want to seem rude or presumptuous because for all I know, maybe they don't want to throw the shower anymore (which is totally fine with me). But I don't want them to plan and then it be a weekend I couldn't participate or have two on the same day and/or same time and it be awkward. How can I be an effective go-between without coming off as pushy or whatnot? I'm also a little concerned because as I've recently learned I'm now officially a high risk pregnancy and could/could not be put on bed rest soon and with the showers being close to my due date or with me being on bed rest, I honestly don't know how to handle the timing of stuff without being pushy. I just don't want to come off as one of those "entitled" FTM.