I hardly have any time to post anymore so I've been saving them up
Using utensils - normal to still be not so great at it? Mostly he uses them to push his food around the plate, onto the table and (see next question) onto the floor. If we load up his fork, he'll eat off it but he can't load it himself and he definitely doesn't get keeping either a fork or a spoon flat on the way to his mouth so the food doesn't fall off.
Scattering food - he's been doing this forEVER and shows no signs of stopping. It drives me absolutely nuts!! He'll get started with a sort of tentative shove at whatever's on his plate and then he immediately starts in overdrive scattering everything to the 4 winds. I have to snatch the plate away super fast or I'm cleaning up the floor, the table, the walls, myself... When he does it, mealtime is over but that doesn't seem to phase him. I figured he would have caught on by now. Seriously, it's been at least 9 months.
Kicking, squirming and generally being a pain about diaper changes - I know this is probably normal but it's like it's a game to him and I don't know how to break the cycle. Any reaction or no reaction from me, doesn't make any difference. Scolding makes him laugh, ditto trying to hold his legs still or just going about my business and pretending like it's not happening. I'm at a loss here.
Wailing when I leave the room and leave him with the sitter - I know separation anxiety is normal but he is the biggest cling-on lately! And MH is talking about quitting his job just so Nikolai doesn't cry when we leave him downstairs with the sitter. He's worried about permanently harming him by abandoning him with the sitter. I just don't know what to do about it. He's generally fine after 5 or 10 minutes but then we're prisoners upstairs because any time he sees or hears us, he freaks out all over again. Not workable.