We are having such a hard time with a name this time! Our first daughter, Ella Ivy, is named after my husbands grandmother, Ethel. In Jewish tradition, you often use the first initial of the family member's name. Our second daughter will be named after my dad's parents. My dad told me how much this means to him since most likely no other future children will be named after his parents. (We have a very small family) It obviously means a lot to me, too.
We have been looking for M or J names, which should be easy, but my husband and I have been going around in circles for months, and cannot agree on a name we love. I love Jordana, but he isnt sold. He loves Jordyn, and I like it- dont know if I would go so far to say I love it.
I told my dad we have been having a bit of trouble finding a name we both love, and I mentioned the possibility of using letters other than M or J for our daughter. Some Jewish parents also honor their family members by giving the child the family member's Hebrew name (there is a baby naming ceremony when the child is given their Hebrew name, but a Hebrew name really wouldnt be a part of their every day life). My dad said that his first choice would be for us to use a M or J name, but he completely understands that we want to pick a name we love. He said he would be perfectly fine if we instead name our second daughter whatever we want, and give her a Hebrew name after his parents.
I am so torn. I really want to honor my grandparents, and I know using an M or J name would be the best way to do it, but I also want to choose a name we love. I would love to hear any of your thoughts as I am ridden with guilt and dont know what to do!!!!!