when to spill the beans?!

NewMammaSara

We haven't told a soul and it's killing me! Has anyone else let the cat out of the bag with immediate family yet??

ShanaJana

We've told immediate family.  We are waiting until after the first appointment to figure out when to tell everyone else.

ladytiedye

I told my family right away, but my mom is also my midwife;)We were ttc for 10months so i was happy to finally get a + test.

shanay981

Hi! I'm 7 wks/3 days and only myself and husband know.. we are planning to tell family on Thanksgiving... we wanted to wait until we heard the heartbeat first (next friday's appt.!)

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hollandpandas

Because I had a miscarriage at 9 weeks last go 'round we decided to wait until 12 weeks (officially 'out of the woods') to tell "the world". We have told immediate family, that way we have prayers and good vibes coming our way to hopefully make this one last.

 Not to be morbid but last time we told "the world" as soon as we knew and then we had to tell them all about our miscarriage, it is not fun to have to answer the same question by so many people. 

kimx86

Our family and closest friends have been told, as well as work, and I have a scan next week (at 8 weeks), but even if that shows good results I'm probably going to wait until the my 13 week scan, it's only another 5 weeks to wait and that way I know I'm pretty much out of the woods

Chataine

We haven't told anyone yet, we're waiting until Christmas to tell immedate family (that will be 12 weeks).... I sometimes feel like I want to climb on to the roof and yell it to the world lol!

jpmdwed

I was going to wait until then too but I couldn't take it anymore!  I told my parents last night.  So far am glad I did, they were so excited. 

PetesAngel

I've told my parents and one of my sisters and a few close friends (who knew something was up when I was suddenly declining wine at get togethers.) The hardest part for me is not telling my 5 and 7 year olds. They will be so excited! I know anything can happen but I feel like that is true at any point in pregnancy. I had my second u/s last Wed. and the Gummy Bear was growing appropriately and we saw the hb (120bpm). I think I will tell them Wednesday because the rest of my family is definitely going to figure it out if we don't announce it at Thanksgiving dinner. I plan on waiting until the anatomy scan to do a facebook announcement.

LET2012

We are doing the same...I will be 12 weeks the 22nd of Dec. and we'll tell his family the 23rd and mine on Christmas day...we're waiting until everyone is together and we can tell them in person (we live hours away, so it's easier to keep the secret...we'll see how it goes seeing them at Thanksgiving though. It'll be tough not to spill the beans! ). 

 

Kiyoshima

We are telling our immediate family (parents and siblings) on Thanksgiving. I have my first appointment tomorrow so I will feel more comfortable telling them after that. As far as friends I won't be telling them until the end of December when I will be a little beyond the 12 week mark. Don't worry it's killing me too! It's hard for me to keep good news in

cgraf07

Hi! I'm 6 weeks/5 days and have told some immediate family only. We won't tell anyone else (extended family/friends) until after the 1st trimester! It's tough to keep a secret as big as this one!!

Barbara83

We've our parents the night we found out I was pregnant and I told my best friend and he told his best friend but that is it. I just started a new job and want to share with my coworkers since we spend so much time together but I know it can't. It's tough keeping such a huge deal a secret. 

luli09

Hi!
Am seven weeks prego n i had a miscarriage 5 months ago. I was 12 weeks pregnant n had the first ultrasound n sonogram but there was no heart beat doc said bby had stopped growing at 10 weeks. I miscarriage 1 week later. I had shared my pregnancy with everyone i know. It was devastating for me n my husband but having people asked about the baby was even worse. I even had people coming to me to rub my belly. They asked "hows the bby doing" worse time ever. Now we haven't share this with any one not until another 7 weeks I pray everything goes ok with this pregnancy.

scde1980

Hi luli09, I am 7 weeks today and I had a miscarriage 6 years ago at 13 weeks. They said by baby had died at 12 weeks. Its so very hard, but I'm trying not to get too excited for fear of disappointment. I did the same thing as you and told everybody right away...then when through the belly rubs when I lost the baby. So we will see. I hope your pregnancy goes well! I hope I beat the odds this time :-)

 

AverySteinhart

We have told everyone that will listen!!

It's too exciting not to share!!

AmandaRFelt

I had a miscarriage at 10 weeks the first time and so we haven't told anyone this time around. I am 6 weeks and won't be able to get into my OB until about 10 weeks along. I'm very scared and anxious. Not sure if we should tell immediate family at this point or wait. 

koolindz

I had a miscarriage at 11 weeks two years ago. I'm 7 weeks now, and have opted to tell our parents and close friends who helped us through that tough time before. We basically chose to tell who we'd lean on anyway if something didn't work out. But, heart beat is healthy, so fingers crossed! Will tell the world after the 12 wk mark!! This one just "feels" better, if that makes any sense.

gabiegonzalez

i have the same problem though iam scared to tell my family because iam only 19 years of age and iam 7 weeks and 3 days, only me and my boyfriend knowand are both very happy but scared and nervous at the same time. i think we're gonna wait till the baby is more noticable on ultra sound ^_^

afreud

We miscarried a week after we told EVERYONE in Oct of 2011 so this time around we have only told the people we know will be praying for us and we have a faith this one will stick Not spilling the beans to EVERYONE till I am between 12 and 13 weeks this time...I am around 7 weeks so not too much longer

Katta84

I had quite a few people guess correctly when I first got morning sickness in my 5th week. Most people know and I have a very strong support system should anything happen. I have already put in intermittent FMLA at work to cover appts. as well as if I am just too nauseated to go.

Jeaninearbonne

You are never out of the unsafe zone. Tell the people you feel comfortable telling if something were to go wrong. I've been telling everyone although with my first we waited. I wouldn't want to go through an unfortunate time ony own. I'm ecstatic and positive thinking is half the battle. :