I'm sick of being pregnant. We tried for 5 years, went through all of the hell you can imagine to get knocked up, and now, I just want it all to be over. Done.
I'm depressed. My head hurts. I can't sleep. My boobs are leaking. My crotch hurts. My vision is blurry. I'm swollen everywhere. It hurts to move. I saw my doc last week and she said "It's par for the course" and kinda shrugged it off. I've had round ligament pain for MONTHS. I'm sick of complaining and my husband is sick of hearing me complain.
I gained 5 pounds in 8 days and almost 15 lbs in two and a half weeks.
I know the baby needs more time. I KNOW that, but I'm so annoyed with everything and sick of the "Yeah, you are pregnant, deal with it" comments.
I just don't feel right. At all.
Sorry to be so negative, I'm just ready for it to be over!
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I'm ready too and have been since about where you are now. I don't have quite as many issues but I have GD and I'm sick of finger pricking, injecting myself with insulin and thinking about carb counting. I haven't slept well since I hit 3rd trimester because my hips cramp up so badly at night that I physically cry in pain.
What helps me is knowing that it will end when the baby arrives, the baby will arrive when he's ready (unless he doesn't and they induce me because of the GD - but still, there's an end in site) and it's all worth it in the end. If not, people would never have more than 1 child.
Hang in there - hope time flies until baby decides to arrive!
Your feelings towards pregnancy have zero to do with how much you want a baby. It's okay to struggle to get pregnant, and then hate every single moment of it. I wish I could just lay an egg and be done with it, or better yet, a stork could magically drop off my baby. Many women love pregnancy, but I'm not one of them. I'm not me when I'm pregnant. I'm some crabby forgetful lady that constantly aches. Yeah, it is par for the course and totally worth it for the baby in the end, but you *** and complain all you want, because it really is hard. Just because something is natural, doesn't mean our bodies agree with it and feel all organic and great.
It will get better - after you have the baby. I promise you will not hurt like this for the rest of your life. Your body will go back to normal, or normal enough. Every woman's recovery time is different. I felt awesome as soon as I woke up from my post labor nap. Other women take longer, but I promise, there is a light at the end of the tunnel, and you're in the home stretch.
These last few weeks will fly by and you will get a beautiful baby out of it. It is uncomfortable and sometimes downright painful, but this is the most amazing thing you will ever do. When I am feeling particularly bad I go to the chiropractor or massage therapist- I think it helps a lot.
Just out of curiosity, has your doctor been monitoring your blood pressure? Your doctor should be concerned about your blurry vision and excessive swelling.
I know that for me it always helped to just get things off of my chest. My mom is a great listener and would sit on the phone for hours with me if I was having an off day.
Try getting into a new TV or book series, spending time outside, going on dates with DH, getting your nails done - just anything to make you smile.
Don't dwell on your weight gain. Unless your doctor is concerned about it you shouldn't be either.
FWIW around 30w I was miserable. Like you said, LO needs more time and it will get better!
I know it may feel like this is never ending but there is a light at the end of the tunnel, I promise you.
If you genuinely feel like something is wrong then go to the ER. If it's more that you are uncomfortable and achey and just don't feel your best then do whatever you can to soothe the aches and pains (a long warm bath) and try to relax as much as possible.
The weight gain that quick would give me cause for concern so if you really feel off don't hesitate to see someone about it. Mother's instinct is often the first indicator that things are happening that shouldn't be.
Please get yourself checked out. These are all signs of preclampysia. I've been at L&D a few times and my discharge papers said if any of the bolded items appeared to return.
Per Web MD
What Are the Signs and Symptoms of Preeclampsia?
In addition to swelling, protein in the urine, and high blood pressure, preeclampsia symptoms can include:
You should seek care right away if you have:
You can also have preeclampsia and not have any symptoms. That's why it's so important to see your doctor for regular blood pressure checks and urine tests.
this and ditto pp that I would call my doc just to be safe and get checked out.
I feel you. I am so tired of the headaches. My hands hurt everyday, sometimes so bad I can barely use them, from sleeping on my side. I wake up every hour to pee, and have to wear pantyliners because I leak. I have no sex drive, which really bothers me because I am a highly sexual person and when I do have sex I'm lucky if I have one orgasm compared to the multiples I'm used to (sorry TMI) . I was plus sized to begin with and my weight gain was going okay but I gained 8 lbs in 3 weeks and now my doctor is on my case and it' s like dude I am doing the best I can. I eat pretty healthy but I am hungry now more than ever so I'm gonna eat. MH says f*ck them worry about your weight after the baby comes. Sitting in a chair or standing hurts after a bit so I end up having to lay down a lot. I can't wear my wedding or engagement rings because I am so swollen, and I had to take the laces out of my shoes too. I feel like a planet. Oh and my newest issue is hemorrhoids, which is just like icing on the cake. I feel depressed on occasion as well.
But you know what? we are gonna have our babies, and recover, and everything is gonna be okay. we aren't gonna be stuck like this forever. when we see our babies we will feel so much joy and maybe it will seem like all this was worth it. hang in there girl, you can do this, and so can I.
Check out the book, "Pregnancy Sucks"
It might make you feel worse, but it made me feel better because the writer makes light of the situation and makes you feel not so alone. It's not pulitzer prize winner or anything, just a nice little read.
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YOU CAN DO THIS!! I was in the same boat almost 2 months ago...I had massive heartburn the last 3 months.Thought i was going to die of the round ligament pain..and you're right. drs dont care.BUT the end result...now laying in my arms sleeping....is the reward. Yes 9 months of pregnancy is hell, but you get a hellva reward for it. I dont even remember any of the pain now. im sure i will when i get preggo again lol. Just remember we are NOT preggo forever and it WILL get better!
I was kind of thinking the same thing............Those are the symptoms my OB told me to let him know if I had any.....
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I completely agree with all of this. I hate being pregnant. LOVE being a mom though. Last time I had a lot of guilt over not enjoying the pregnancy, I somehow felt like it meant I didn't really want/appreciate the baby enough, now I just tell myself that the fact that I'm willing to be pregnant again means I REALLY want this LO!
Thanks everyone. We determined everything is fine after almost 4 hours at Labor and Delivery last night-- just went in for observation and tests because I still can't shake this headache, I'm swollen, blurry vision, weight gain, etc. Very little protein in my urine, my BP was fine, CBC was normal (still anemic though) and electrolytes were good. Baby's heartbeat was a little erratic according to the NST at times, so they want me to rest and keep up with fluids. Doc said everything is "painfully normal".... she gave me compazine for the headache, which knocked me out but did very little for the headache. At least I slept for a few uninterrupted hours last night! Thanks again ladies!
What a great response! Thank you - that made me feel so much better reading it!
woo hoo! glad you're okay momma