We are scheduled for our frozen transfer on Saturday, after a chemical with our first IVF last month (single embryo transfer first time around). We are really struggling with the decision about whether to transfer one or two embryos. We have 6 frozen - 4 are BB and 2 are BC, although apparently they are not labeled as such and we don't know which ones are which (which is crazy to me, but the nurse said it's standard because BB and BC are almost equally as good). At our clinic, BB is pretty much as high as they rate - my nurse said she's never seen an A rating.
Our doctor recommended a single transfer the first time around. This time, he says he'd still lean toward just one since I am 33 and my embryos are very good quality. The doc says that transferring 1 embryo is successful about 68% of the time in women under 35, and transferring 2 results in about 71% success rate, but the rate of twins in the 2-embryo-transfer group is 50%.
I would be okay with twins, and if my choice was twins or no baby, I would obviously choose twins. It scares me, especially financially, but I feel like we could do it and I'd be happy to be done with this whole process (we only want two kids). My husband is scared to death of twins and the responsibilities and financial issues (cost of day care, health care, etc). He is having a realllly hard time with this and is worried that he might resent them (I know he won't, but this is his concern). I'm worried that if we only transfer one and it doesn't work, I'll be so upset and wish we'd done two, but I'm also worried that if we do two and end up pregnant with twins, his worry/concern will ruin the excitement of the pregnancy for me (if that makes sense).
So, I welcome any opinions, thoughts, and statistics or articles - I can't find much data for the under 35 set, but I haven't searched that much.
This process seems to become more challenging every day!