April 2013 Moms

Bad news - update

Thanks everyone for all the sweet and thoughtful messages earlier this week. We saw an OB specialist on Tuesday late in the day. He is incredible and saw us at 6 pm even though his appt day was way over. And he was able to get me in for the procedure on Wednesday at noon. In some ways it has felt like a whirlwind, but as we knew this was possibly coming, it was a decision we had talked about endlessly for almost as long as we've known each other.

We found out we were having a boy, which makes it more real. I know some people wouldn't want to know, but I felt like if I didn't know, it would make it seem like nothing and I wanted it to be more than that. I was really hoping for a boy. <3

Anyhoo, some people asked about us trying again and adoption and what not. As for trying, there is a 50/50 chance every time that this could be the case. We said we would try once and see what the universe/God had in store for us. And it seems we got our answer. Neither one of us, at least at this point, can imagine going through this again and potentially having the same results. 

For adoption, we looked into it prior to trying the old fashioned way. Private adoption here is hard to come by and the chances of getting a baby are slim to none (something like 15%), so really our odds are better to try to have our own healthy baby. Overseas adoption is way too expensive. We have thought about trying to foster, but that seems to come with its own hurdles and heartache potentials. Still a possibility though, so we might reevaluate in a year or two and see how we feel. The other option is in-vitro - they can test my eggs and get the healthy ones and then implant them, but again, the cost and chance of actually conceiving is low.

While we would LOVE to have kids and we would make great parents, for now, we also know that we're happy as we are and we knew before getting married that this could happen so we were prepared to be childless. Easier said in theory than practice though of course. In many ways I feel horrible for DH as this is my "fault" (I know it's not my fault exactly and I'm not to blame, but it is my stupid DNA :P).  But he is happy as we are and for now, we'll enjoy each other and spoil the crap out of our adorable niece.

Thanks again for all the kind words. It was great being pregnant with all of you for the past 4 months. 


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