My first response was: Are you serious?
She said they have big families, and a lot of friends.
I think I talked her down to about 50... But, I am hosting this shower by myself, as no one else has offered to to help, and even if I do the bare minimum for food etc, that is still a bigger expense for me. I understand its a huge undertaking on who is hosting, and I was totally fine with that, but wanting 100 people there?!?
I have suggested very close family, no one further out than parents, grand parents, siblings, aunts, uncles and first cousins (whom ever they regularly interact with). She never responded about it after that...
I will also be suggesting having a 'diaper and beer' party for all the friends (only having maybe 8 of the people at the shower, being her close friends) and the rest can go to the party...
What other options can I give her to maybe bring her count to around 25/30?
(*like I said before, I know its a huge undertaking hosting a shower, and I have accepted that, and I will do whatever to make it an awesome day for her, I just don't want it to be so much going on and people there that it can get too busy busy that day)