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Rude Shower Guest

So I had my shower this past Sunday and it was quite fun! I was really thankful to all the time and thought my hostesses put into it but I did have one regret. Most of the ladies were work friends and one in particular I probably shouldn't have invited. The first thing she says to me? "Chris (her boyfriend and a manager that I work with) didn't know you were pregnant, he thought you were just fat!" Then she felt the need to further explain how he assumed I had gained a bunch of weight. Thanks. That made me feel wonderful.

She ate a bunch of food and was the first one to leave. Oh and she sprawled out on the couch very dramatically because she was so "tired" Confused 

 Anyway, any of you ladies have rude guests? Hope you guys have great showers and enough seats for everyone ;)

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  • I had one odd moment where one of my aunts ripped open a gift while it was being passed around.

    It was one of those cart/high chair covers and honestly it was the one thing I was planning on returning. She ruined the package and it was nonreturnable, I was just a little taken back, oh well.

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  • I had a rude guest at my shower.  She's a good friend, she can be outspoken, but she was totally rude during gift opening.  She has 2 kids, my shower was for my first, and most of my guests didn't have any kids, so I think she felt like she was the voice of experience.  Anyway, one of my friends bought a bunch of random stuff - some was off my registry, some was not, but I could tell she was trying to get a lot of useful stuff and bundle it together.  She's also very practical, so the gift was very "her".  It was stuff like waterproof pads, nail clippers, baby lotion/shampoo, washcloths, etc.  So, I opened the gift, and my know-it-all friend busts out with, "Wow - is there a gift receipt in there?  You know you won't need x, y, and z."  I was mortified and I could tell the friend who got me the gift was embarrassed.  So, then I went through the items and made a big deal about how I could use them.......but, yeah.  I didn't speak to my first friend for a while after that.
  • No one was actually rude to me...but I did have one friend who made a rude comment about another firend's sister.  Something about her being pregnant "out of wedlock".  Ummm...I had another single friend there who was very pregnant.  Made for an awkward silence for sure.  People just don't know when to keep their mouths shut!
  • I am worried about political comments turning into a big argument...some opinionated people coming who are not afraid to speak openly! I will try to warn certain people ahead of time, but I've found that doesn't really prevent much, regardless of the reason for the gathering.
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    I had a rude guest at my shower.  She's a good friend, she can be outspoken, but she was totally rude during gift opening.  She has 2 kids, my shower was for my first, and most of my guests didn't have any kids, so I think she felt like she was the voice of experience.  Anyway, one of my friends bought a bunch of random stuff - some was off my registry, some was not, but I could tell she was trying to get a lot of useful stuff and bundle it together.  She's also very practical, so the gift was very "her".  It was stuff like waterproof pads, nail clippers, baby lotion/shampoo, washcloths, etc.  So, I opened the gift, and my know-it-all friend busts out with, "Wow - is there a gift receipt in there?  You know you won't need x, y, and z."  I was mortified and I could tell the friend who got me the gift was embarrassed.  So, then I went through the items and made a big deal about how I could use them.......but, yeah.  I didn't speak to my first friend for a while after that.

     

    I don't blame you! I would much rather get practical items then another cutesy outfit. Don't get me wrong, I'm thankful for everything I get but you had the right idea. I would also make a big deal over the items to make her feel bad.

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  • My lovely MIL sat front and center, in front of the gift table, and scoffed, laughed, rolled her eyes, and otherwise made fun of every.single.gift that didn't come from her family. Thankfully, her back was to 95% of my guests, so they couldn't see her. It would have been humiliating had they been able to see her.

    She, along with her mother and sister, barely spoke to me (except to make a ridiculous show of hugging me "bye" in front of my family when she was leaving), and completely ignored my hostesses, my sister, and my mother.

    She acted so horrible that I had at least 3 people ask me if I'd like them to remove her. I had a horrible case of the 24-hour flu the day before my shower, and had no energy to deal with it, or I would have taken them up on the offer. I just ignored her, but a few of my friends made a point to tell hubs how she behaved. (he showed up at the end of the shower and could tell something was up. These friends called/text hubs later that evening because they were so concerned) He's since given her an ear-full about it, but it still made for a miserable day.

    Had I been feeling well, that woman would have been escorted out. I just wasn't up for the drama.

    Other than the MIL show though, my shower was beautiful, my family and friends were wonderful, and I had a great day despite feeling awful. I just tried to focus on the happy parts of my shower and ignore the MIL downer.

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    My lovely MIL sat front and center, in front of the gift table, and scoffed, laughed, rolled her eyes, and otherwise made fun of every.single.gift that didn't come from her family. Thankfully, her back was to 95% of my guests, so they couldn't see her. It would have been humiliating had they been able to see her.

    She, along with her mother and sister, barely spoke to me (except to make a ridiculous show of hugging me "bye" in front of my family when she was leaving), and completely ignored my hostesses, my sister, and my mother.

    She acted so horrible that I had at least 3 people ask me if I'd like them to remove her. I had a horrible case of the 24-hour flu the day before my shower, and had no energy to deal with it, or I would have taken them up on the offer. I just ignored her, but a few of my friends made a point to tell hubs how she behaved. (he showed up at the end of the shower and could tell something was up. These friends called/text hubs later that evening because they were so concerned) He's since given her an ear-full about it, but it still made for a miserable day.

    Had I been feeling well, that woman would have been escorted out. I just wasn't up for the drama.

    Other than the MIL show though, my shower was beautiful, my family and friends were wonderful, and I had a great day despite feeling awful. I just tried to focus on the happy parts of my shower and ignore the MIL downer.

    Ugh. I failed to mention my MIL did  some similar things. If it was from anyone but her family it was "useless" she hadn't heard of half the items (including breast pads) and kept loudly asking "did you even want that?" "Did you register for that!?" And other choice phrases. I'm used to her but many of my family and friends commented on ow rude she was acting.

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  • Sounds like someone I know - I won't even explain her relation to me for fear she could read this somehow.

    The one I know always takes the time after parties to email me pictures covered in LOLs about how "funny looking" my face is in this or that one, and she always has a terrible headache when the focus is on someone else, including her children. Sad.

    I just try to feel sorry for her to keep my irritation at bay. She is clearly lonely and unhappy, not to mention jealous.

    You are definitely not alone in having a rude guest or two, but I am glad yours didn't ruin your shower! At least she had the good sense not to overstay her welcome, right?

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  • My MIL is ery christian. We had my babyshower at her house, see my mom and brothers like to drink and MIL understood and said they could drink in the garage with her husband. They problem was that she kept coming in and out in and out for no reason at all. Told my family that when she comes in they would have to hide there drinks. It made me very upset!!!!
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  • My sister spent much of the shower making relatively inappropriate comments/ telling inappropriate stories - I heard a few of them and was generally mortified. 

    She told one story that started out with her talking about how she had been in love with this guy (Johnny), who turned out to be a better friend than lover, and how he married her best friend... And later died of brain cancer... And how when when their son was little, Johnny learned that if you fed a baby whole olives that they came out looking like whole olives.  Everyone was kind of staring at her through much of the story, and wondering a.) where it was going, and b.) what in the world the point of it was.  I know all of the players and I still don't understand why she told the story. 

    There were also a few inappropriate comments, one that was borderlining on racist, a comment about my deceased grandmother that was just in poor taste, numerous references to how spoiled I was growing up, etc.  It was mighty special.

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  • At my shower for my daughter 2 years ago my cousin was there who was also pregnant, she was 5 weeks ahead of me. I am a bigger girl, she is a tiny little thing. So my "friend" is making small talk asking my cousin when she is due. She responds with "Your cousin is 5 weeks ahead but you are so much bigger than her already." Yup, duly noted, thanks! 
  • I went to my cousins wedding shower last month, and heard this crackling noise. So I see this 60ish year old lady with something to her ear, which I assumed was a cell on speakerphone. Nope. It was a radio playing a sports game, and she listened without headphones for at least an hour. This shower had at least 100 guests and was in a ballroom. No one said a word.
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