My 5-year old went from a preschool program at a daycare center into kindergarten this year, and I feel like her behavior is all over the map.
There are some days that she comes home and she's stayed on green, so she had a good day. But we get a good number of yellow and even some red (blue is worse than red and she hasn't hit that yet). When I ask her why she's on yellow or red, she occasionally can't remember, but it's a lot of her needing to be told multiple times what to do or she won't stop talking.
The biggest concern for me, though, is that we've had three incidents of her putting her hands on other children. In one case all I know is that she was touching others, in another she pushed someone because they were "in [her] way", and today, she smacked someone because they cut in line. We also heard from a child on the bus that she was touching them and wouldn't stop when asked. This is entirely new, not something we ever heard about in preschool, and I'm at a loss.
Her father and I have both talked to her at length about keeping her hands to herself and how it's utterly unacceptable to push, shove, smack, etc. And even if she thinks she's being funny and cute, it's not okay to touch others when they don't want to be touched (which is what was happening on the bus). She loses privileges when she comes home on yellow or red, and she earns rewards when she comes home on green.
She's always been a pretty well-behaved child. Her preschool teachers praised her to the heavens and the only issues we had with her there were with naptime, and that was because she no longer needed or wanted a 2-hour nap every day. When they began allowing her to quietly read books on her cot, her behavior at naptime approved.
I should also note, as you can see from my sig, that we have a new baby in the house. I don't want to excuse her behavior as it being due to the baby, but I'm wondering if there's a connection. And if so, how to handle it.
I'm sorry this is so long, and I appreciate anyone who took the time to read this. I've felt pretty confident in my parenting for the past 5 1/2 years, but I'm suddenly feeling totally out of my depth. Any advice or suggestions would be greatly appreciated.