Long story as short as I can get it... I am a PT working mother of one with one on the way. My husband works out of town so while Im at work my mother-in-law and my mother split the responsibility of watching my 3 year old son. I do pay them 20 a day, which is about 5 dollars less that most daycares in the area. I am grateful for their help, however I now realize this was a mistake and caused more harm than good.
Both the moms have keys. They have been just letting themselves in the house while if we are still sleeping and we dont answer the door . Both the moms stop by unexpectedly without calling so I end up seeing them almost every day of the week (i work only 4 days a week and cherish the days off with my son) I have talked to my mother about this and my husband has talked to his mom. However, my mother-in law continues to stop by unexpectedly (we live 2 blocks away from her work) and says "oh i wasnt going to stop by but...." She is very hyper sensitive and over-analizes what we say, she is a drug addiction counselor and she just told me she thought I was on drugs when I had "acted weird" during this summers camping trip (yes, she comes along on our vacation time) I was not on drugs- I was pregnant. I have dealt with this for 5 years and am realizing I am at my wits end. I know she will probably never change so I either need to just let it go and deal with it or move to another state. When we do bring stuff up she does something strange to let us know shes upset. Does anyone have any advice for my sanity?! I love my mother-in-law and want a good relationship with her but I am pregnant with baby#2 and its getting worse. With baby #1 she came into the delivery room not a half hour after he was born and said I was "hogging the baby" while I was feeding him for the first time. I am not going to let her do this with baby #2!! aaaaggg!