I know that my delivery is MONTHS away, but I already have a definite idea of what I want to happen assuming all is well with me and Baby by my third trimester (I really don't see any complications happening though). I want a water birth and have read up on it extensively already. Based on my overall anxiety when dealing with hospitals and my need for control, I think it would be the best option for me. I just can't see myself being able to relax if there's a chance that I'll be poked, prodded, or forced into a delivery position that I don't want (I REALLY don't want to be on my back) due to hospital policy. Next week I have my second prenatal appointment and I'll be speaking to my doctor about whether or not a water birth is possible in my hospital, and if not, then I'll be switching to a midwife and maybe deliver at home. We're five minutes away from the hospital, so I could realistically get there if something went really wrong. The problem I'm facing is that I'm not sure a lot of my family will agree with me. I told my DH and while he wasn't thrilled, he also understood that I'm stubborn and would not let him "win" this discussion, but there are other family members who may try to sway me. I know what I want and I can't be coerced, but I'd also rather not have the stress of shutting them down all the time.
My question is...do any of you plan to have a home or otherwise unconventional birth, assuming there's no complications? If so, how would your family and friends react, and what would you say to get them to respect your decision? Also, for any moms out there who've had a water birth or know someone who did, how did it go? Was it a home birth or in a birthing center/hospital? Any advice on this would be greatly appreciated since I plan on switching to a midwife soon should the hospital still be unequipped for water births (the website info was from 2011, so it might have changed since then).