This is really minor but I would like to hear from other moms.
My friend came over recently with her 2 year old daughter. Daughter wanted to see my 8 week old's nursery so I gladly took them to see it. Daughter eyed some stuffed animals that I have displayed up on a high shelf along with some other gifts and trinkets for DD. Without asking me, my friend says to her daughter "Which one do you want to play with?" I was shocked! These were gifts that my child hasn't yet to play with. I get that they are stuffed animals and that this isn't the end of the world but wouldn't manners suggest that a parent draw the line at some point and tell their child, "That isn't for you to play with. Go play with the toys you brought with you." Or ask me first, if not take the opportunity to teach the daughter to ask, "May I play with her toys?"
Daughter then made a bee line for a decorative pillow that I'd placed on a chair; another gift for my DD that was expensive, handmade, irreplaceable, and isn't really a play-toy. Her mom didn't stop her and without thinking I said "Not that one" because I really didn't want her to destroy it, but then I felt awkward and tried to cover up what I said by explaining why this item was off limits. So Daughter points to one of the stuffed animals and her mom gives it to her to play with.
Contrast this to when a stranger and her toddler were at our house for about 1/2 hour while our two husbands were loading the furniture on our truck that they were purchasing from us. Their little boy wanted his daddy so to distract him I brought out one of DD's electronic toys that she isn't yet old enough to play with. The mom certainly didn't ask, "Hey, got any toys my kid can play with?" nor did she permit him to play with anything in our house. I just offered; mom and toddler happily accepted. All was well.
To me it is more that the expectation that someone would come in to my home with their child and permit their child to treat it like their personal playground without setting boundaries. We're had a few families with toddlers over and this hasn't happened. Perhaps when my DD is a it older and exploring I'll permit her to grab at whatever she wants no matter who it belongs to just to keep her from crying. I certainly hope not. But I'm a FTM so I thought I might ask you ladies: was my friend out of line to not ask first or is this within acceptable boundaries because it was a child's toy.
TIA for your honest assessment! Like many FTMs I've got a lot to learn and children's etiquette is no exception.