We use the no cry methods to put DS to sleep at night, but then let him CIO during the middle of the night with checks at 3, 6, and then every 10 minutes. I really hate hearing him cry and it breaks my heart. But, I can tell it's an "I'm mad, come get me" cry and not that he needs anything. And, I obsess with watching him on the monitor while he's crying just to be sure. Lately, he'll wake up, we go in to check on him, then he'll cry for 3 minutes, we do another check, and by 6 minutes he's put himself back to sleep. I will feed him if it's been 8 hours since his last feeding, so usually around 4AM, though I've been told he can physically make it longer and that I'm training him to wake up at 4. I'm hoping eventually he'll STTN because he still usually gets up twice a night and DH and I are both TIRED and miss our sleep! I just don't know what else we can do to make him sleep longer!