I just wanted to share my experience as I feel that only this board will understand. After three losses and my beautiful rainbow baby, I still struggle a little with pregnancy announcements. My best friend since middle school is pregnant again and her previous pregnancy went very well. No losses. No pregnancy difficulties. First baby wasn't planned and 2nd one was on the one after her PP AF. First try. Total FH. Not like a flashy or ignorant FH, but just naturally a FH.
Part of me is jealous that she seems to have it so easy. I wouldn't wish a m/c on anybody ever, but you know that whole loss of naivety yada yada yada thing. So I was talking to her a couple of days ago and she was telling me how worried she was that she didn't have symptoms yet. She's only 8w. I gave her legit reassurance that symptoms don't mean anything. She said she POAS again and it didn't get darker. I assured her that there are several variables, blablabla. Not reliable. blabla It occured to me though.
She's acting like she's PGAL because of my losses. She's freaking herself out because she knows more about it than she ever did before. She was nothing like this during her first pregnancy. Never in my life did I consider that she would be impacted. I don't want her to have a stressful freaked out PGAL pregnancy. As much as I'm jealous of others being able to completely enjoy their pregnancy, I don't really want that taken away. I'm only jealous because I'm not able experience that myself.
Anyway, now I feel guilty that I've traumatized her and have once again mind f%cked myself. I thought only you guys would understand and I wanted to get it out of my brain. OK. Rambling over.