So today was my first day back to work and I'm hoping to get some perspective from some other mom's who have had their kids in daycare for a while. He's in a center and he's in an infant room with 5 other babies, 2 teachers and then an aide.
I go around 4:00pm to pick P up from daycare. When I get there, he's taking a nap (he had gone down around 3:00-3:15) and I don't want to wake him up, so I sit in the rocking chair to wait. Finally around 4:45, he starts to wake up and I'm happy he got such a good afternoon nap because his teacher told me he took a bunch of cat naps in the morning, so he was probably tired. The center keeps the cribs in a separate alcove and they keep it dark and play white noise, which I like.
I'm sitting with him in the rocking chair while he wakes up and I start
talking to the teacher (this is the same teacher who was there this
morning when we dropped him off). She told me he had a really good day
and that he ate every 3 hours, pretty much on the dot. We told them this morning (and wrote it down) that he
normally eats every 3 to 3.5 hours during the day and sometimes will
stretch it to 4 hours, but not very often. She showed me the log of his
feedings and there was 3 feedings listed - 9:30, 12:30 and 3:00. I had
pre-made 5oz bottles for him and I thought it was sort of odd that next
to the 9:30 feeding it said "ate the whole 4oz bottle" and for the 12:30
feeding it said "ate the whole 6oz bottle". First red flag.
So I ask if I could have the extra bottle he didn't drink, since we had dropped off 4 bottles. She goes to the fridge and pulls out 2 full bottles from his shelf. So I got confused and said "I think we dropped off 4 bottles, but he ate 3 times so there should only be 1 bottle left". So she's like "hmm that's weird". Second red flag. But then I thought maybe I was losing my mind and we dropped off 5 bottles, so I told her I was fairly sure we dropped off 5 because I honestly couldn't remember right then.
I get in the car and call my DH and he tells
me he's 100% sure we brought 4 bottles because he's the one who mixed
them up this morning. So that leads me and DH to the conclusion that P
got someone else's bottle of formula OR breastmilk for one of those
feedings if he ate 3 times. OMFG.
I'm shaking/crying at this point and my H actually remained really calm. He calls the director who tells him he will figure out what happened and call him back. 30 minutes go by without a call back, so my H decides to go over there and talk to them in person because it's obviously an important issue.
So it turns out that LUCKILY P did not get someone else's bottle - they wrote down they fed him when they really didn't. Somehow apparently they went to feed him and wrote it down, but then he fell asleep in the swing and took a catnap, so they didn't feed him. He never got a bottle at 12:30 and he went over 6 hours without a bottle. I'm still seriously PISSED about this - that is longer than he's ever gone and I wonder WTF they were doing when they just forgot to feed him?? And trust me, P is VERY vocal when he's hungry so I can't believe they could ignore him screaming from hunger?
I just really don't know what to do now.
The lack of communication really bothers me and I'm worried they can't
keep track of his schedule properly. Obviously we need to make sure the teachers understand we are upset about this and stress how important his routine is. And honestly, this isn't even a routine - it's the basic act of feeding our son! I plan on dropping in tomorrow during the day to check
in and I will seriously call them every 3 hours on the dot if I have to
remind them to feed my son. I just
can't believe something like this would happen on the first day of day
care. Any advice or insight on how to handle this would be great - thanks ladies!