TTC After a Loss

Loss at 34 weeks and Intro

Hi Ladies. I am new to The Bump. I lost my daughter almost 6 weeks ago at 34 weeks due to what my doctor thinks was a placental abruption. I woke up one evening feeling like I needed to use the restroom. I got up and felt a gush. I thought that my water had broken but when I turned the light on in the bathroom, I realized it was blood. I had never had this much bleeding in my life. I yelled at my husband to get up. We drove to the hospital. My daughter had a heartbeat and it was strong. A few minutes later it started to drop and they told me I would need an emergency c-section. I was put under general since there was no time for the epidural. I woke up to my husband telling me our daughter had died. Apparently her heart dropped in the operating room and by the time they got her out she had no heartbeat. They tried CPR for 45 minutes but were unable to bring her back.

I am sad, lonely, mourning all the things we will never have with her. I wonder why this happened to us, to her, to our family. I want answers as to what happened. My doctor thinks the placenta abrupted, but how could it just happen in a matter of minutes.

I would love to hear of any similar stories. Also, any ladies who had a c-section, how long did your doctor give you until TTC. 

Mommy to an angel who got her wings at 34 weeks.

Re: Loss at 34 weeks and Intro

  • I'm so sorry for your loss. The ladies on this board are incredibly supportive and I hope we can help you get through this hard time in your life. 
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  • We are all so sorry for this devastating loss. I just want you to know that there is also a board entitled "Loss" that focuses on women who have late term losses and child loss such as yours. We are all here for you if you need us but I wanted you to know you might find more similar stories there. Hugs to you
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  • I'm so sorry for your loss. I pray that you find peace & healing soon. This board has comforted me. Take care of yourself. Huge hugs!!!!
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  • I'm so sorry for your loss.  Welcome to the board.

    I lost my daughter due to incompotent cervix at 21 weeks so I can relate somewhat.  Going from everything was normal to losing the baby very abruptly.  But I cannot imagine how heartbreaking it was being so close to your EDD and then experiencing a loss.  

    As I understand it, placental abruption occurs very quickly with little to no warning signs. 

    Big Hugs!!! 

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  • I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope that you find sharing your grief helps ease your loneliness.
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  • Oh, I am so sorry for your loss.  I had a late loss as well (41w), but delivered vaginally and my doctor recommended at least 6 months.  My friends who delivered without complications via c-section were told to wait ideally 1 year to make sure your uterus and rest of body are healed properly.  Have you had your 6 week post partum appointment?  I'm sure your doctor could address any questions you have.  It's really important to recover after a c-section because of the risks associated with getting pregnant so soon after a c-section.  

    I am so sorry again, for your loss.  Welcome to the board and I hope you find the support you need here.   

    ETA:  I also recommend the "Loss" board, there are a bunch of ladies over there who have had later losses and might be able to offer some insight into placental abruption and c-section healing as well as other questions you may have. 

  • I'm so incredibly sorry for your loss. I hope that you can find some comfort here with these wonderful women. Welcome to the board. ((HUGS))

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  • Thank you ladies. I posted on the "Loss" board and the "Pregnancy Loss" as well. Just hoping someone else has had a similar story. I have my 6 wk appointment next week. My doctor originally told me to wait 3-4 cycles but that seemed so soon. I am still waiting on my first cycle though so it might take a while. 
    Mommy to an angel who got her wings at 34 weeks.
  • I am so very sorry for your loss.  I hope you take good care of yourself as you go through the healing process.
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  • I have no helpful words but I just to say that I am so very sorry for your heartbreaking loss.

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  • I'm so so sorry for the loss of your daughter, but welcome to the board.

    I would post your question over on the Loss board; I don't know that any of us here have had emergency c-sections. (There may be one.) I hope we can be the support and understanding you need through this time. 

    Huge, huge HUGS! 

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  • I am so very sorry for the loss of your daughter.  The ladies on this board are nothing short of amazing and a huge help during this process.  I hope you are able to get some answers from your doctor.
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  • My heart is broken for you. So incredibly sorry for your loss! I hope you can find comfort and support on this board. Hugs


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  • Violet, your story breaks my heart. I'm so so very sorry for your loss. I hope you find peace through your healing, and I hope this board can be a part of that. The ladies here are so supportive.

    huge (((hugs))) for you. 

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  • I am so incredibly sorry for your loss. 

    Welcome to the board. I hope that you are able to find support here and on the loss board. 

    Sending some comforting hugs your way... 

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  • I'm so very sorry for your loss (((hugs)))
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  • I am so sorry for the loss of your sweet baby girl .your story has me in tears. welcome to the board. I hope your stay is short & sweet. (((hugs)))
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  • I hate to have to welcome you here, under such heartbreaking circumstances.  You have found a safe, supportive group of women here so I hope you turn to us often for support.  Sending you big ((hugs)).

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  • Your story is so heartbreaking. I'm so, so sorry for your loss. I hope is board brings you some comfort.

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  • I'm so sorry for the loss of your angel. This board is full of wonderful supportive women and I hope you find that here. (hugs)
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  • *hugs* I'm so sorry for your loss. :(

    Welcome to the board, but I'm so sorry you have to be here.  The ladies here are wonderful. 

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  • I am so sorry for your loss. Welcome to the board. It is an amazing, supportive place.
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  • I am so very sorry for your loss. I hope you find comfort, support and whatever you need on this board. Big Big HUGS

  • I am So very sorry for your loss.  I don't have any advice as I had my loss early at 8 weeks.  big ((HUGS))

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  • I'm so sorry for your loss. Your story breaks my heart. I know there are women on this board who have had 3rd tri losses and also placental abruptions, I hope you are able to connect with them. I agree with previous posters, the loss board may be a good place to find women with similar stories.

    I welcome you to the board. I hope you get your take-home baby soon. Big hugs!

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  • I'm so sorry for your loss. Welcome to the board. I hope you are able to find some comfort here. ((((HUGS)))
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  • I'mm just so sorry for your loss. I really can't imagine. I hope you get some answers at your pp appointment. Big hugs to you

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  • My heart breaks for you! I am so sorry for your loss!
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  • Wow I am so sorry for your loss. You and your dh must be devastated :( I wish that I could take away the pain and you could just start all over again but I can't. I hope you and your dh support each other through this time, but we are here to help too. 


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