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7th grade student (pg mentioned)

I just realized that I have a pregnant 7th grader.  She looks pretty far along so maybe she will be leaving soon.  I don't know how I am going to handle having her in my class.  I almost want to ask if she can go to another teacher, but I know I just have to suck it up.  Why does she get to keep her baby when I lost mine?  It's just so unfair.  I am in a foul mood now. 
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  • That would put me in a bad mood too:(  I'm sorry.  ((hugs))
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  • Hugs!  Sometimes it just doesn't see fair at all.  I always have to tell myself that you don't always know everyone's situation or what they are going through, regardless of how sh*tty it may be for you.  

    Just like when I was being wheeled out of the hospital, bawling, holding onto a shoebox.  People looked at me, or side-eyed me, but chances are most of them didn't realize that I had just gave birth to and lost my son only hours ago.  

    I hope your day gets better!  Be gentle on yourself, SC. 

  • (((Hugs))) I too would find it difficult to have a daily reminder in front of you in class.

    It definitely doesn't make sense that some irresponsible kids can manage to have kids, while there are adults who are trying and doing everything 'right', who have losses.

    No words of wisdom here, but I say 'vent away'. We're here.

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  • ugh...what a kick when you're down.  I "kinda" understand working in a hospital and seeing  young pregnant teens.  So sorry!
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  • This just makes me SAD. Can you imagine? Call me old fashioned, but grrrrrrr. Why are 1213 year olds having sex???!?
    I'm sorry you are having to see her every day....stay strong! hugs

  • That makes me sad and angry.

    Just a suggestion...maybe change the title and put a warning? Ladies having a hard day might have a hard time with this topic. I know I wouldn't want to read this if it were my EDD or if I were having a bad day.

    ETA: I wanted to add how I don't know how/if I could handle seeing this! Stay strong! I hope she has a good support system and that the poor baby will have a good life no matter what she chooses.  (hugs)

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  • Oh, no! That's awful for a whole lot of reasons. Hang in there. (((HUGS)))
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    This just makes me SAD. Can you imagine? Call me old fashioned, but grrrrrrr. Why are 1213 year olds having sex???!? I'm sorry you are having to see her every day....stay strong! hugs

    Ditto this! I really wasn't even thinking about that at all at that age!

    But I'm so sorry you have to deal with this. (((hugs)))

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    This just makes me SAD. Can you imagine? Call me old fashioned, but grrrrrrr. Why are 1213 year olds having sex???!? I'm sorry you are having to see her every day....stay strong! hugs

    I work in a prison so my world view is a little jaded....my mind went directly to "I HOPE it was another 12/13 yr old that got her pg".....

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  • That is so tough...I know it's hard for people who don't work with young people to believe kids that young are sexually active, but those of us who do work with them know all to well that they are.  Sorry this is going to be "in your face" for awhile...(((hugs)))

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  • WOW! That really sucks!!!! Just not fair!!! Sorry!
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    That is so tough...I know it's hard for people who don't work with young people to believe kids that young are sexually active, but those of us who do work with them know all to well that they are.nbsp; Sorry this is going to be "in your face" for awhile...hugs

    I definitely believe it, it just makes me so sad. I get the kissing and all of that at that age, but sighhhh......

  • I don't blame you for being upset. It's not even slightly fair. (((hugs)))

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  • {Hugs} I'm so sorry.  That is definitely not fair at all.  That is just wrong for all kinds of reason. 
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    This just makes me SAD. Can you imagine? Call me old fashioned, but grrrrrrr. Why are 1213 year olds having sex???!? I'm sorry you are having to see her every day....stay strong! hugs

    I work in a prison so my world view is a little jaded....my mind went directly to "I HOPE it was another 12/13 yr old that got her pg".....

    Exactly what I first jumped to.  Maybe my time in prison (working.. not what you thought - jeez!) impacted me that way too.  Hmmph 

  • Wow, that totally sucks.  For everyone. 

    And I agree with PPs -- WTF are 12-13 year olds doing having sex anyway? 

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  • That has to be very hard to see every day - sorry you have to deal with that.  {{hugs}}

    I agree with the PPs - what are kids that age doing having sex?!

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  • Oh, honey, I'm so sorry!  I know that must be hard to face daily.  You always have us to vent to.  It's been nice to have this board when I feel like whining about my 14 year old pg clients. 

    Hopefully she will be taking classes at home before you know it!  Big {HUGS}!!!

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  • I'm really sorry you're having to deal with this. What a difficult thing to face.

    I do agree that you never know someone's situation, and she is so young that after this, she could still have a chance to live positively if she is given help and compassion. I totally understand if you don't feel you can be that resource for her. I'm not sure I could do it either. But, if you can't, maybe you can connect her with someone who can. Sometimes in those situations a teacher can make all the difference to a girl who needs help.  

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  • I'm so so sorry. Sad I can't even imagine what this is and will be like. Sad

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    This just makes me SAD. Can you imagine? Call me old fashioned, but grrrrrrr. Why are 1213 year olds having sex???!? I'm sorry you are having to see her every day....stay strong! hugs

    I work in a prison so my world view is a little jaded....my mind went directly to "I HOPE it was another 12/13 yr old that got her pg".....

    I don't work in a prison but my mind went that same direction! 

    This just makes me so sad.... I really hope that her support system is good and that she graduates high school. So many youngsters drop out... and that makes me sad too.

    I would have a lot of trouble dealing with the situation and certainly seeing that student every day. Keep your chin up! *hugs*

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  • Life is really unfair sometimes. ((hugs))

    I don't work in a prison either, but my mind went toward hoping it was another 12 or 13 year old that got her pregnant. Sadly we don't know her situation and it could be much worse. I would try my best to support her while you have the chance. Maybe you will be a positive influence in her life.

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  • That makes me so sad and so angry. I am sorry you have to come up against that. And I ditto PPs...why is this child having sex?! So sad. 
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  • Ugh! That sucks!! I wonder if she'll ever realize what a gift she has or if the baby will just be a burden to her. So sorry!
  • I'm sorry. That has to be hard to deal with!

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  • Oh goodness, that most certainly would have put me in a foul mood.  I'm sorry hon.
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  • Thanks ladies.  I found out that she is 15- so she has repeated grades, which means that there are more problems.  Still, 15 is way young.  I do appreciate you letting me vent :)
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    Thanks ladies.  I found out that she is 15- so she has repeated grades, which means that there are more problems.  Still, 15 is way young.  I do appreciate you letting me vent :)

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  • I can totally relate. Not only is there a pregnant freshman, the 2 teachers next door to me are expecting AND I just found out that the student teacher that I am going to get in a few weeks is expecting as well. I am like really?????? We m/c in March and I have not ovulated since then. :( Hang in there....It HAS to get better. Good luck!
  • Oh dear.  That blows, man.

    This totally depends on the relationship you have with your principal or supervisor, but if I had a pregnant student in my class, I would totally ask for her to be transferred to another class if possible, and I would say exactly why. 

    Hopefully her belly will be hidden in a desk and you'll only be able to see her face 90% of the time until she leaves.

    Good god.  What is wrong with this world?
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