TTC After a Loss

Intro and plan...(longish)

Hello ladies! I would like to apologize in advance for any typos- I have  bum "a" key.

Anyhow... I've been lurking around here for a few months now, but have never posted because I knew that BFP was just around the corner. I was wrong. I was pregnant for a brief time in Mar/Apr with a Nov 23rd due date. At 8 weeks, we discovered the baby had stopped growing at 6 weeks. I had a D&C at 10 weeks. We had only been trying since the beginning of the year, so it all happened pretty quickly. I had hoped that would be the case again, but the universe has other plans for us. I know 4 cycles after m/c is not that long, but right now it feels like an eternity!!! I do have 3 kids (and a loss between #1 and #2) from my previous marriage, so I know firsthand that rainbows do happen. Due to my "advanced" age (39), we had only planned to try until the end of the year, so now that I feel like the pressure is on, I have devised a sick and twisted plan to finally get a BFP and a baby to go along with it. Here it is....

1) Buy a ton of pregnancy tests. Having them on hand will hopefully negate the need for them.

2) Start the Insanity! workout. Working out consistently and feeling good about it will likely result in being unable to continue- HR will be WAY over 140.

3) Intro on this board. Finally having a place to vent and laugh with a great group of gals should lead to my having to leave the group. 

4) Realize that wht we think is perfectly timed sex, must not be and start charting.  (I have no smart-@$$ comment for this, I really should have started long ago.)

Ok, so while I totally realize none of these things will actually help me to conceive, I think I will feel better having done them. Nice to finally formally meet all of you!


Married my Best Friend 06/25/11
TTC since 02/12

BFP 03/17/12 D&C 04/27/12
BFP 11/06/12 EDD 07/20/12

Hoping for our rainbow baby!
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Re: Intro and plan...(longish)

  • Nice to meet you too. I am sorry for your losses.

    So, go with what feels right to you, but please realize that there is no functional difference between TTC at 39 years 11 months and 40 years 1 month. Beware of arbitrary deadlines, as they add a crap ton of anxiety and don't do anything to help you. 

    At 39 with a recent m/c, I'd not only start charting right away, but I'd make an appointment to see an RE sometime in the next 2 months. Sometimes at our age, it takes a little help.

    Welcome to the board, and you might also consider TTC>35 for an age common group, too. 

    AMA over 40
    Massive uterine fibroids removed 3/06
    BFP 1/11; MM/C discovered @ 10w, loss at 6w; Cytotec
    B/W 7/11 = normal CD3, FSH 8.9; 7DPO progesterone 1.7
    Three Clomid cycles, all BFN, Off to an RE for me...
    FSH=8.7 E2=30 AMH=1.8 HSG clear, SA=great
    Inj. IUI #1 12/9/11 BFN, Inj. IUI #2 1/6/12 BFN
    Inj. IUI #3 1/30/12 BFP!, HCG doubled through 6w, 7w u/s mm/c twins
    Factor V Leiden, Hetero, symptomatic
    Op Hysteroscopy 5/12, removed scar tissue and uterine septum
    Doing Cryo-DE IVF 
    Beautiful hatching 5-blast transfered 8/30
    BFP 9/7/12 EDD May 19, 2013
    A/S on 12/21/12, Petra's having a baby, it's the end of the world!
    Pebbles arrived safe and sound 4/13. Placenta accreta found.
    Op hysteroscopy 2/7, reopen ute/remove adhesions from accreta
    Found severe Ashermans. Fuuuuuuu... Repeat Op Hyst in March.
    Op Hyst ver 3.0 looks good so far, find out if it worked in June.
    Finally got the damn IUD out. Waiting to stop bleeding.
    SIS shows rippled funky shaped ute, but given clearance to begin sFET calendar.
    Here goes everything...
    sFET#2 BFP, ended in m/c.
    Waiting for the next Op Hysteroscopy to find out what next.
    Scratch that, retained tissue. 3rd Cytotec round.
    Another damn Op Hyst. Found and removed retained tissue.
    Pathology returned fine, no molar. Cleared for final attempt after next cycle.

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  • I'm sorry for your loss but welcome here. The mind games you're playing are a bit familiar. I hope they work!
    BFP#1 11/25/11 EDD 08/09/12 MMC 01/30/12 D&C 02/01/12
    BFP#2 09/11/12 beta1=72 @13dpo beta2=160 @14dpo beta3=over 6000 @24dpo U/S @7w2dd hb=146bpm U/S @8w5d hb=159bpm U/S @12w hb=164bpm
    EDD 05/20/13
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  • I'm so sorry for your losses, but welcome to the board. I hope your mind games work. Buying a sh!t-ton of pads in the hopes that I won't need them for a really long time doesn't work, though, just so you know. Wink


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    BFP #1 12/7/2011 EDD 8/21/2012 Delivered at 15 weeks
    "I'll love you forever. I'll like you for always. As long as I'm living, my baby you'll be." 
    BFP#2 10/19/2012 EDD 6/30/2013 Delivered safely two days early

    Great big huge congratulations to my love, maddielynn321, for a bean with a heartbeat!
    Grow, little alien baby, grow!

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  • Sorry for your losses, welcome to the board.

    4 Losses (2003, 2008, Apr 2012, & Oct 2012)
    All RPL and IF testing with multiple REs = normal

    5 IUIs = BFN

    All AL are welcome
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  • I'm sorry for your losses.  
    BFP #1- 12/3/09, EDD- 8/7/10, Missed M/C at 8 weeks & D&C- 1/5/10, BFP #2- July 2010, Baby Charlie Born March 29, 2011, BFP #3- 4/12/12- EDD- 12/21/12, Missed M/C at 10 1/2 weeks 5/29/12, D&C 6/1/12- testing results showed triploidy, IF testing all normal, February 2013- IUI#1, femara, follistim, trigger =BFN, March 2013- IUI#2, femara, follistim, trigger= BFP #4, 3/20/12, Beta#1 16dpo= 397, Beta #2 18dpo= 1037, Beta#3 24dpo= 11,589- EDD 11/30/13- It's a Girl!!! Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker BabyFruit Ticker
  • I'm sorry to hear of your losses. Welcome to the board. 
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  • Welcome to the board! Hoping you have a very short stay here!
    TTC:Off BCP December 2011. BFP #1 January 16, 2012; EDD September 12, 2012; m/c Feb,1 2012. BFP #2 June 6, 2012; EDD February 11, 2013; diagnosed with blighted ovum/had D&C July 12,2012. BFP #3 October 20, 2012; EDD June 29, 2013. BabyFruit Ticker Sunshine_zps3fcf529f
  • I'm sorry for your losses and welcome to the board.
    TTC #1 Since Oct 2011
    BFP #1 4/29/12 m/c 5/18/12 at 6w2d
    BFP #2 8/28/12 EDD 5/10/13 MC 9/22/12 at 6w4d
    BFP #3 12/31/12 EDD 9/12/13

    Me Dx: DOR   DH: all tests normal
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  • Welcome to the board, I hope you find some support here and that along with your tricks your stay is short!
  • I'm so sorry for your loss. welcome to the board!
    TTC since 4/28/07
    Diagnosed w/ endometriosis 12/2010 Laproscopic surgery & 6 months of Lupron
    BFP 12/17/2011,EDD 8/23/12,ectopic discovered 12/29/11 at 6 weeks recieved methotrexate
    Dec '12 HSG & ultrasound showed abnormalities & more endo. Laproscopic surgery in January '13 showed significant damage & scar tissue from Endo. IVF is our best shot to concieve our rainbow.

    June '13 Decided to go the adoption route!

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  • I'm so sorry for your loss but welcome to the board.  I hope your stay here is short and sweet!  {{hugs}}

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  • It sounds like you've got it all figured out! :)

    Seriously, welcome to the board and I hope you are successful. I'm sorry for your loss. The timing sounds a lot like my loss.

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    BFP #2 9/5/2012 -- Born 5/20/2013 -- Welcome, rainbow baby!
    BFP #1 1/24/12 -- No HB 2/16/12 -- Misoprostol 3/10/12
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  • So sorry for your loss.. but here's to a warm welcome.  Glad you have a plan in place.. hope it all works out soon. Hugs.
    TTC #1 since April 2011

    BFP #1: June 7, 2012 -- EDD 2/15/13 -- MMC 8/13/12 (stopped growing at 11w) -- D&C 8/17/12

    BFP #2: November 10, 2012 -- EDD 7/22/13 -- Hudson Reid

  • so sorry for your losses.. (((HUGS))).. welcome to the board..
    Lilypie Angel and Memorial tickers BFP 2# 7/5/09,EDD:3/26/10,MC:9/23/09. We Miss our Lucky Charm.
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