September 2012 Moms

Irrational fears

I have this irrational fear every once in a while that my daughter is going to end up being a son and I won't be ready with a name or anything. We have clothes since we already have one S, but still.

I've thought it was a girl since January (scientific stuff right there!) and then at my 20 week ultrasound the doctor said, "I'm almost positive the baby is a girl." I understand that some doctors just won't commit and he got a good look at that area, but that "almost" thing keeps throwing me.

Is anyone else having irrational fears about this or anything else? Care to share?

 

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  • I almost posted this exact same thing. I had multiple ultrasounds with DD (elective) to confirm she was a girl, but only my 20 wk anatomy scan with this LO. 

    I'm getting very nervous.  

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  • I'm glad it isn't just me.

    Also, every time I read your name in my head I do it with pizaaz. Mrs. KaPOW!

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  • No, I'm pretty sure he's a boy as he's been sure to show off the jewels in every u/s.  I have a fear in the back of my head that something is wrong with him, physical and/or mentally that wasn't picked up.  I'm sure he's fine though but worrying is a moms duty!
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  • i have a fear the dr, nurse and DH are going to play a dirty joke on me and tell me its a girl and im going to start ugly crying because i really want, and am having a boy...testicles confirmed on saturday at u/s#4...lol
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  • Every ultrasound that we have had that would show gender we have showing us that we are having a boy.  But the last couple days my head is going 'what if it is a girl' and I can't even think of what we would do if it was.  All I have is boy stuff.  EEK!!!

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  • im kinda nervous that DD would actually be a boy, but theyve checked and no jewels lol if its a boy it will be very feminine for a bit till i can get some clothes (i doubt thatll happen though)

    also im so nervous i'll go into labor while DF is out of town and he wont get back in time. i know realistically labor can/probably will take HOURS giving him plenty of time to get on a plane if needed and get home i just hope she decides its time when hes home/relatively close

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  • I have an irrational fear that somehow DH is going to be able to convince the birth certificate lady to only let him sign & my kid is going to end up with a name like Wolfgang Axel Rod S----------
  • image terri_doula2010:

    I'm glad it isn't just me.

    Also, every time I read your name in my head I do it with pizaaz. Mrs. KaPOW!

    YES! Can you please add one of those comic book >POW< things to your siggy? Thanks.
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    Also, every time I read your name in my head I do it with pizaaz. Mrs. KaPOW!

    I read it in the Lightning McQueen "ka-CHOW" voice. :)

     

    Our LO was very clearly a boy at 19 and 29 weeks (the tech labeled a photo with "Still a boy!") but DH and I have still had several conversations about "Oh man, what if it's a girl?" If LO is a girl, she will be named Erica and she will wear some very clothes that will make people assume she's a boy. (We're not big into gendered things, but everyone else bought us the clothes so it is what it is.)

    I also have a truckload of irrational fears because it's just my nature. I keep telling DH I don't want to somehow end up alone at the hospital. He assures me that between him, my mom, and a truckload of medical professionals, I won't be alone, but I just keep thinking that I will somehow end up by myself. I know it's irrational, but I'm nervous.

     


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  • I do. I had my U/S done by the same tech that did a friend and told her very early on that she was having a boy. (He couldn't tell me anything other that it could be a girl.) Fast forward to the 2nd U/S and he told her she was having a girl and I am having a boy.She decided to get another U/S, but I am going with the one he did on me, he outlined the penis on the the picture so I am hoping everything turns out fine. 
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  • image LILBIT1221:
    I have an irrational fear that somehow DH is going to be able to convince the birth certificate lady to only let him sign & my kid is going to end up with a name like Wolfgang Axel Rod S----------

    hahaha!

    And terri, I think it's normal to have this fear.  I've been preparing for a boy because he showed us everything.  But there's always that fear that what the doctor said during a scan is completely different than what they announce once you push the baby out!



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  • image LILBIT1221:
    image terri_doula2010:

    I'm glad it isn't just me.

    Also, every time I read your name in my head I do it with pizaaz. Mrs. KaPOW!

    YES! Can you please add one of those comic book >POW< things to your siggy? Thanks.

    Totally used to have that back in The Knot days.  Aw, memories.  I will poke around and decide if I'm up for dealing with TB's siggy crap. 

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    If LO is a girl, she will be named Erica and she will wear some very clothes that will make people assume she's a boy. (We're not big into gendered things, but everyone else bought us the clothes so it is what it is.)

    DH is very paranoid that they got the gender wrong (and MIL is hoping they did).....they both asked what we will do if it's a girl....well we have a girl name, most of the stuff we got is gender neutral and yah she'll have to wear a few boy outfits...NBD

  • The gender ones are way more rational than mine! My irrational fear is that I will end up having my baby at home without time to get to the hospital since they are so far from us. I would LOVE to have my baby at home but I feel that I am too old and being on bedrest for so long that I might have a hard time and need medical for one of us.

    I just have such a high pain tolerance and with the kidney stones I am just worried that I will miss noticing its actual labor (which is next to impossible IIRC) until its too late. 

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  • Yeah, I've had that wrong-sex thought, too.  Two ultrasounds were very clearly girl ... but still.  I gave all our boy stuff away and at this point am very attached to the idea of a 2nd daughter.

    My other irrational fear is going into labor on one of the 4 days between my ILs arriving and my parents getting here.  I do NOT want to leave my kids alone with ILs, as shitty as that may sound, they just don't focus and aren't good at following direction and I'd be a wreck an hour away at the hospital.  I told DH that if it came to that he could stay home with the kids, I'd go have a c/s by myself.  The nurses could keep me company.  I'm kidding, kind of.  I think I need to line up a friend to come over instead and we could tell ILs we couldn't get through to their phones or something (they're staying at a resort with minimal reception, so it could happen....)  I've never gone into labor before, it's not likely to happen by 38w4d (the day my mom will be here) .... but it's a fear. 

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  • image mrs.kapow:
    image LILBIT1221:
    image terri_doula2010:

    I'm glad it isn't just me.

    Also, every time I read your name in my head I do it with pizaaz. Mrs. KaPOW!

    YES! Can you please add one of those comic book >POW< things to your siggy? Thanks.

    Totally used to have that back in The Knot days.  Aw, memories.  I will poke around and decide if I'm up for dealing with TB's siggy crap. 

    Yes

     

  • I have the same fear. I really wanted a boy and it took me about 10 weeks from my A/S to get on board with having a girl. Now I have completely embraced it and am worried they are wrong. Our nursery started gender neutral, but I have added way more pink and purple than blue at this point and I have NO boy name picked out.
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  • I feel the same way. I have only had one ultrasound this entire pregnancy and it was at 18 weeks. The tech was all "Hey, I think that's a penis!" and I was all "What do you mean you *think* it's a penis? IS IT A DAMN PENIS OR ISN'T IT??" Gah.
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    Olympic divers on the toilet?

    What the fluck, LB?

    1. it posted before I could put that an irrational fear of mine is the first poop after delivery.

    2. I am in a mood.

    3. I figure if I PW it up enough, I will either hit Platinum or everyone will agree I need to quit working a week early because they are tired of all my weird shiit.

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    1. it posted before I could put that an irrational fear of mine is the first poop after delivery.

    2. I am in a mood.

    3. I figure if I PW it up enough, I will either hit Platinum or everyone will agree I need to quit working a week early because they are tired of all my weird shiit.

     This makes sense now. I am afraid of the first poop too and from what I have heard it's not all that irrational...

    Are you going to be MIA when you are done working? I love all your weird shiit... Don't leave me.

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    image LILBIT1221:

    1. it posted before I could put that an irrational fear of mine is the first poop after delivery.

    2. I am in a mood.

    3. I figure if I PW it up enough, I will either hit Platinum or everyone will agree I need to quit working a week early because they are tired of all my weird shiit.

     This makes sense now. I am afraid of the first poop too and from what I have heard it's not all that irrational...

    Are you going to be MIA when you are done working? I love all your weird shiit... Don't leave me.

    Not MIA completely, I just won't be sitting in front of a screen & keyboard all day. So it will be limited weird shiit. I'll never let go Spoof, I'll never let go.

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    image LeSpoofle:

    image LILBIT1221:

    1. it posted before I could put that an irrational fear of mine is the first poop after delivery.

    2. I am in a mood.

    3. I figure if I PW it up enough, I will either hit Platinum or everyone will agree I need to quit working a week early because they are tired of all my weird shiit.

     This makes sense now. I am afraid of the first poop too and from what I have heard it's not all that irrational...

    Are you going to be MIA when you are done working? I love all your weird shiit... Don't leave me.

    Not MIA completely, I just won't be sitting in front of a screen & keyboard all day. So it will be limited weird shiit. I'll never let go Spoof, I'll never let go.

    That .gif is totally inappropriate, LB. Because guess what? THEY FLUCKING LET GO. I don't feel very reassured. ::cries::

    I vote that you work until your baby falls out. kthnx.


  • I've definitely also had this fear. I had my first a/s at 19 weeks, where they told us it was going to be a girl. The tech even "pointed it out" on the picture, but I'm still completely paranoid about it. I'm absolutely terrible with ultrasound pictures; I can never make out anything, LOL. Plus, baby wasn't very cooperative that day, and I ended up having to do another ultrasound to get better pictures of a few areas. Makes me worried they missed the extra "plumbing" as they called it.

     This is probably going to sound terrible, but I have started to get this fear that I'm going to drop my daughter after she's born. Like while I'm holding her I'll manage to let her slip from my arms. I was like this with DD1 too. Granted, when she was born, I had next to no newborn experience, so the fear seemed a little more valid at the time. Thank God it never happened. I feel out of practice with babies, given the age gap between my girls, but the thought has crossed my mind. And I pray it doesn't happen this time either.

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  • I was like this with DS, mostly because we were so sure he was a boy before the A/S, and everyone else swore he was a girl. So we just wanted to be right. (We wanted a boy for our first, as well, but that was definitely far less important than being right.)

    Right now, I'm sure this one is a boy, but sometimes I daydream that he comes out a girl. I would be ok with that too. =)


      
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  • I've had multiple u/s this pregnancy, and all confirmed boy, it was VERY obvious. That said, I don't think I'd fully trust if a tech said "I'm pretty sure it's a girl" (not trying to freak you out, just being honest). I mean, a boy is obviously a boy. If the tech saw the "three lines," I'm sure it's a girl (well, 99% sure). But if she is saying girl based just on NOT seeing a peen, I'd be skeptical.

    Regarding irrational fears in general, my biggest is that my water breaks in my classroom. I'm a high school teacher and I just can't imagine how horrified and disgusted my students would be. It would be mortifying. 

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  • image LILBIT1221:
    Olympic divers on the toilet?

    Wow, LB--how did you know that my (exceedingly) irrational fear is that I'm going to push Baby out when I'm struggling with a poop?

    As for the sex of baby issue, if I wasn't Team Green I'd totally be worried they got it wrong.  

  • I've been thinking the same thing lately.  We have mostly neutral furniture/gear, but we have a ridiculous amount of girl clothes. We had two ultrasounds that said girl, but they put the "?" in there since they can't say for sure.  I will probably pass out if she arrives with testicles.
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