Well a while ago, I posted about my other half being useless, and not interested in the baby or me, and pretty much carrying on living it up and drinking heavily.
Alot of people suggested to move away and life with my parents till babby was born.
Well I did, since around end of June, I've been living with my parents. I've been coping alot better and become more secure and confident. Now my "partner" has only been to visit me once in the time (it's only 2-3 hours away) I've been here which was a rather short weekend visit -to be honest I was grateful, as I was uncomfortable around him.
The week before he came up I said I was possibly gonna have a c-section as my doctors were concerned about my weak heart. He said awesome then I could tell him the date and be with me for the birth. Well, I hadn't considered this at all. In fact I didn't want him with me. So I tried to phase this in a delicate manner stating I didnt want him there, he asked me why not "She's my daughter". This made me laugh as he STILL hasn't bought ANYTHING for her.
So I politely asked him to answer a few of the questions on my birthplan and see if he thought he knew enough about MY birthplan to consider it. He didn't in fact he got everything wrong. Well he said he would learn and get better and do more. So I gave him that chance he did get better, he started to ask more questions, read up my pregnancy books I had left at our flat. But ofc it started to dwindle away again. He has gone back to a lack of interest and even when I mention her to him, he doesn't ask anything about her. But we can have a 45min conversation about movies.
So anyway. I have decided that, well I don't want him to be apart of my daughters life as he has been little of part of it now, but he suddenly decided that he is moving from our flat and he is moving to live with me and my parents for two months before moving back to Australia. He says this is so he can spend time with her after she is born. But I don't want him here, my parents don't want him here. I've told him that they aren't keen but he says, but she's my daughter they can't stop me from seeing her.
He has tried to encourage me to move back with him but the thought of being trapped in Australia with no friends, no family, no way home scares me to death, so I said no way, and he says he is going home and this means I need to organise moving my belongings out of the flat while still pregnant and I have no where to store them.
Well I've decided not to put him on the birth certificate, but I really just want him out of my life and out of her's. But I don't want to be a b/tch about it. I just feel we would be better off without him and the two months he is staying with us is gonna be extremely uncomfortable for me and for my parents. Plus since he wont be moving up till AFTER she born anyway now - since he has to finish his month notice at his workplace.
So how do I tell him, I don't want him in my life or hers?