Telling the good news at work..

JammyJams1219

I'm almost 14 weeks and I haven't told work yet. I am trying to wait as long as possible because I am hoping to be get some more responsibility before I tell people. I know your work can't officially deny you a promotion because you're pregnant, but it's really impossible to prove I would think! Also, I feel like there is a stigma about being pregnant since you're dealing with side effects like exhaustion and nausea. But, I am really hoping for this new role! How long did everyone else wait and was anyone else in this same sitch?? Thanks!

Tulips114

With DD I waited until 14 weeks, I don't think I'm going to make it that long this time though.

holly321

I am waiting.  I was pretty much demoted for getting pregnant with DD.  I needed a back up to learn my job, she kept it when I got back from maternity leave.  I now have my job back again, since she quit, but they will most likely do it again.

 

I am waiting as long as I possibly can, but my scrubs are getting tight, and I am pretty sure my manager already knows anyway.  My biggest goal is to wait until 16 weeks.  

ajatmont13

holly321:

I am waiting.  I was pretty much demoted for getting pregnant with DD.  I needed a back up to learn my job, she kept it when I got back from maternity leave.  I now have my job back again, since she quit, but they will most likely do it again.

 

I am waiting as long as I possibly can, but my scrubs are getting tight, and I am pretty sure my manager already knows anyway.  My biggest goal is to wait until 16 weeks.  

This is 100% illegal.  If they try that on you again file discrimination/FMLA violation claim immediately.  I work in HR and am absolutely horrified that you had to put up with that.  Call your state's department of workforce development for free help if necessary.  No one should ever have to worry about retaliation for pregnancy.   

colinsfebmommy

I have my NT Scan Monday, I will be 12 1/2 wks. I will tell work next week. I am sure they will not be excited.

schwabmomma

I wanted to wait but ended up breaking my news just to my boss at 10 weeks. His wife had recently given birth and I think he was suspicious of my frequent bathroom trips and multiple visits to the Dr. I didn't break the news to the rest of my office until a week ago (at 12 wks). I agree with you that there is a stigma, more so depending on the line of work you're in. Hopefully when you do decide to tell them it will be well-received!

holly321

ajatmont13:

holly321:

I am waiting.  I was pretty much demoted for getting pregnant with DD.  I needed a back up to learn my job, she kept it when I got back from maternity leave.  I now have my job back again, since she quit, but they will most likely do it again.

 

I am waiting as long as I possibly can, but my scrubs are getting tight, and I am pretty sure my manager already knows anyway.  My biggest goal is to wait until 16 weeks.  

This is 100% illegal.  If they try that on you again file discrimination/FMLA violation claim immediately.  I work in HR and am absolutely horrified that you had to put up with that.  Call your state's department of workforce development for free help if necessary.  No one should ever have to worry about retaliation for pregnancy.   

 

 I work in a company of less than 30, so it is legal.  The policy book states that they have to save a position for me, but when I come back to work, it may be one of comparable status.  My pay stayed the same.  

JumpAroundBucky

I told them between 11 and 12 weeks because I couldn't physically work anymore due to my morning sickness, so I had to take a leave of absence. I'm glad they know and I don't have to try to hide it anymore!

InspectorSpacetime

I'm hoping to make it to 14-16 weeks before telling work, and I'll meet w/HR to get all my options in order before I tell my boss (it was very helpful last time to know how our short-term disability worked and what the official and unofficial lines were on having to go out early, if necessary). It's easier to hide since my office is so cold - I always have a huge wool throw on and, and my boss works in another state and only visits every few weeks.

However, I'm also trying to avoid the 'Battle of the Bumps' that the office does quarterly; people wager on which of the currently-pregnant women in each office will 'pop' first, and the money goes to charity.  I don't mind the charity element, of course, and it's nice to know that such a huge company is relatively supportive (though it would be nicer to get the year of paid leave my European colleagues get), but I also have no desire to be the center of attention in that way. I'm trying to fly under the radar!

ByGrace22

Wait until you're showing...then another week or two, since we always think we're showing before most other people can tell.  There is no requirement to tell early.  With my first I didn't tell until 18 weeks, and no one had guessed yet.

lbrowne716

I'm a little over 4 weeks, or so that's what my cycle says, I found out at 3 weeks so I think I'm further, I told my work already, but only because it came up into conversation and I have a history of miscarriage. I'm also the only nurse on my unit overnight so I feel if my coworkers know then I won't feel bad for saying "I can't" to lifting residents off the floor or helping to boost. I'm taking every precation I can.