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I don't know why people think that's OK. It's like seeing a pregnant woman makes them lose all common sense!
People are clueless, I'm sure you look beautiful!
My MIL used to always say to me, "You're getting fat!" 'Uhhh it's not fat it's a baby!" She hasn't said it to me this time yet, but it's probably coming!
wawa84:Yes! Almost everyone makes comments about whether I'm further along than I think or having twins. Only 1 person said that I looked smaller than I should. I think that people should just keep their mouths shut on this matter, but I will take smaller vs bigger. I think people forget that there is a little person growing inside &(big shock here) that person takes up room & causes the stomach to (gasp) protrude outward.
I know even the 'you look small' thing is not a good thing to say. When I was pregnant with DD I was always measuring behind. One week I was measuring 3 weeks behind (I had actually shrunk according to her measurements from the previous two weeks). Needless to say, I was concerned that I was going to need additional testing, something was wrong, etc. That same week this woman asked how far along I was and said, "You look so tiny!" I'm sure she meant it as a compliment, but I was not at a place where I wanted to hear that. After all was said and done DD ended up being 21 inches long and 7lb15oz. So it just goes to show you, you never can tell!
YES people have been doing this to me too. I am 17 1/2 weeks and I have only gained 7lbs but mostly in the belly. So many people are feeling the need to come up and tell me about my belly and touch it. I want to just say back off, jeez..
I even had a patient at work earlier this week tell me I'm "really filling out"
My doc copped a major attitude when I told her that people tell me that I'm too big for 26 weeks. She said: "Most people have never seen a naked pregnant woman and most people have never seen a fully pregnant woman AND every pregnant woman is different. Unless I tell you that you're too big or too small or too malnurished - then ignore those people. You're measuring right on target, so you can certainly tell them that your MD, who graduated from Harvard, who sees thousands of pregnant women, who delivers hundreds and hundreds of babies, can say with 100% assurance that you are due in October, that there is one baby and that you are measuring perfectly fine."
You are free to borrow my script. ;)
But really, people need to be quiet. Le Sigh.
I get all the time especially from my husbands side of the family. Oh and my favorite is, "Are you sure there is only one baby?" I think my doctor and I would know if there were more than one. My husband tries to be nice and tell me I look beautiful and not to take it so personal but sometimes its hard.
Yep, I heard that throughout my pregnancy with DS. Even better was when I finally started feeling like I genuinely looked "cute and preggo" around 26 or so weeks, my MIL said "You are not really growing outward, just getting wider." I bawled the whole way home. I told DH I will not tolerate comments like that this go round. This time I am going to wave my bi-otch and preggo flags at the same time :)
achristen0711:Does anyone else have this problem? It seems like everyday I have someone tell me I'm so huge for being 25 weeks or asking me if I'm sure I'm only having one baby. Its kinda depressing, I don't feel like Ive gained a lot of weight or I'm that big!
Oh yeah!! Everyone has an opinion and thinks its totally acceptable to ask if you are having twins or compare your weight gain, etc.
I even had one lady talk about her birth plan when I was just trying to relax and get a pedicure. I think I am going to be straight up with people going forward.
I think I would start busting out the really ridiculous comments to make THEM uncomfortable. (That's what I'm best at lol.)
Next time someone tells you how big you are respond with something along the lines of "yeah I know-I'm scheduled for a gastric bypass surgery next week.....fingers crossed I can drop some of this HEINOUS weight!"
Almost guaranteed it will leave them speechless and you can walk away with a smile. :)
Cycle #7 TTC post M/C: 1st Round of Clomid CD 3-7
BFP #2 2.17.12! - EDD 10.28.12 :: Beta #1 102 @ 13dpo, Beta #2 212 @ 15dpo :: Ava was born 11.2.12
BFP #3 1.31.14 - EDD 10.7.14 :: So shocked, but so excited!
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