Is anyone still here?
I just have to add that with all of the blow ups about things spouses are allowed to do, not allowed to do, forced to do...I simply don't get the concept of having to "make" your spouse do something or not do something. I EXPECT him to step up, be an adult, and live up to his responsibilities in life. And if he wasn't man enough to do that because that's what people do, rather than because I "made" him, then I honestly don't think we'd be married.
The concept is foreign to me. I'm not being snarky, I just keep seeing references to it. I don't have control of my husband, but I don't need it. He's an adult. We're a united front. We make compromises, accomodate each other, and want each other to be happy even if that means we have to suck up our own personal comfort sometimes or do something we'd rather not.
I don't know why this is bugging me. Maybe because I'm pretty laid back in general and I don't consider asking my husband to be an adult and a partner controlling.
::sits back and waits for the flames::