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Venting..need some opinions

If you were told by your mother in law (while still pregnant) that she "doesn't do babies, so don't dream of asking for babysitting help" and now that he's 3 months old, she complains "I only get to see him every two weeks" What would you do with that?

I am 34 years old. My bar hanging days have been far behind husband and I for at least 5-6 years, so if I do need a babysitter for an hour or two, it's to do legitimate errands or maybe a couples dinner. So, it's not like I would abuse it. but it pisses me off to no end that she's like this. Especially when she takes in 4 foster kids yet does NOTHING for her grandson.

I really just want to tell her that if she "doesn't do babies" then she doesn't need to see him at all.

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  • When she complains how little she sees him, I would remind her that she told me that she doesn't do babies and didn't want to babysit.  I would tell her that based on what she said, I assumed she didn't want to keep him while I ran errands or see him that often.  Put the ball back in her court and let her respond to that.
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  • I would remind her that she told you that "She doesn't do babies..." And then ask what she would like to do to see her grandson more.

    and see what she says.

    I hate MIL's... 

    I agree... The only time I need a babysitter is when I am doing a bunch of busy errands for a few hours and hopefully for a "mom and dad" night out... Which hasn't happened yet.

     

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  • It's disappointing when women who 'don't do babies' have kids.  It makes you wonder what kind of childhood your husband had.  : (

     

    I think you should do what everyone else says...  When she complains, just remind her that since LO is still a baby, she can't 'do' time with him.  Tell her you'll call her on his 10th birthday. 

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  • There's a difference between seeing the baby and babysitting him. Take him for a visit, and just hang out over there. I don't understand your confusion.
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    There's a difference between seeing the baby and babysitting him. Take him for a visit, and just hang out over there. I don't understand your confusion.

    There's no confusion. My point is that if she isn't going to be an active member in his life (living 5 minutes away) then she is not entitled to ANY time with him. She hasn't earned it, obviously isn't too pressed about it if she won't even watch him for an hour and at this point for me to take time out to nice and bring him for visits is far more courteous than what she's shown me. I can't stand the sight of her at this point and I'll be damned if I'm gonna sit there(spending my time) and have her pull the "ahh...my baby" bullshit.She's a disgrace of a grandmother to openly take in and care for all these foster kids and has done literally NOTHING for her only biological grandchild. I mean, who does that????

    Think I will go with the advice given "call him on his 10th birthday since you don't "do" babies. "

  • I'm assuming there is more to this then her one comment about not doing babies.  Some people are just not comfortable with babies.  I have several family members who told me they would not hold DD until she was 6 months.  They enjoyed looking at her and talking about her, but babies are very delicate and alot of people are just scared to hold a baby that isn't their own.  You bring up the foster kids a few times, are they newborns?  As long as she is taking care of them and not doing it for money, you can't really fault her for that. 

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  • They are not newborns but I really question if it is just for the money. She collects drama, pets and now kids. So, that situation is really questionable. All she wants to do when I take LO to see her is hold him, feed him (improperly, I might add) and tell me all the things I need to do. So, it's not a fear of holding babies. My husband has a sister with 6 kids and she watched every single one of them when newborns. Still babysits them all now. She's just a ***!
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    There's a difference between seeing the baby and babysitting him. Take him for a visit, and just hang out over there. I don't understand your confusion.

    There's no confusion. My point is that if she isn't going to be an active member in his life (living 5 minutes away) then she is not entitled to ANY time with him. She hasn't earned it, obviously isn't too pressed about it if she won't even watch him for an hour and at this point for me to take time out to nice and bring him for visits is far more courteous than what she's shown me. I can't stand the sight of her at this point and I'll be damned if I'm gonna sit there(spending my time) and have her pull the "ahh...my baby" bullshit.She's a disgrace of a grandmother to openly take in and care for all these foster kids and has done literally NOTHING for her only biological grandchild. I mean, who does that????

    Think I will go with the advice given "call him on his 10th birthday since you don't "do" babies. "

     

    i agree with you- mil sounds like a jerk...

     

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    There's a difference between seeing the baby and babysitting him. Take him for a visit, and just hang out over there. I don't understand your confusion.

    There's no confusion. My point is that if she isn't going to be an active member in his life (living 5 minutes away) then she is not entitled to ANY time with him. She hasn't earned it, obviously isn't too pressed about it if she won't even watch him for an hour and at this point for me to take time out to nice and bring him for visits is far more courteous than what she's shown me. I can't stand the sight of her at this point and I'll be damned if I'm gonna sit there(spending my time) and have her pull the "ahh...my baby" bullshit.She's a disgrace of a grandmother to openly take in and care for all these foster kids and has done literally NOTHING for her only biological grandchild. I mean, who does that????

    Think I will go with the advice given "call him on his 10th birthday since you don't "do" babies. "

    This right here makes you sound completely selfish and childish.  You are actually complaining about her taking in children who need help and have families that are unable to care for them.  Are you f'ucking kidding me?

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    There's a difference between seeing the baby and babysitting him. Take him for a visit, and just hang out over there. I don't understand your confusion.

    There's no confusion. My point is that if she isn't going to be an active member in his life (living 5 minutes away) then she is not entitled to ANY time with him. She hasn't earned it, obviously isn't too pressed about it if she won't even watch him for an hour and at this point for me to take time out to nice and bring him for visits is far more courteous than what she's shown me. I can't stand the sight of her at this point and I'll be damned if I'm gonna sit there(spending my time) and have her pull the "ahh...my baby" bullshit.She's a disgrace of a grandmother to openly take in and care for all these foster kids and has done literally NOTHING for her only biological grandchild. I mean, who does that????

    Think I will go with the advice given "call him on his 10th birthday since you don't "do" babies. "

    This right here makes you sound completely selfish and childish.  You are actually complaining about her taking in children who need help and have families that are unable to care for them.  Are you f'ucking kidding me?

    NO. Not *** kidding you when she collects kids to collect checks. Takes care of other grand kids because SIL is a complete ghetto ** up but my LO get nothing. I don't think that to be childish at all. She has no rights to see my son if she can't show/display she gives a *** about him! 

    so, are you *** kidding me????

  • My MIL wants to watch him so bad yet when we are together won't change a diaper. And even if I just fed him and he starts to suck on something she insists I feed him again. Babies like to suck! I don't know that I could trust her to not feed him every 10 minutes! I also hate in laws. I just wish I could not deal with her at all.  

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    My MIL wants to watch him so bad yet when we are together won't change a diaper. And even if I just fed him and he starts to suck on something she insists I feed him again. Babies like to suck! I don't know that I could trust her to not feed him every 10 minutes! I also hate in laws. I just wish I could not deal with her at all.  

    Agreed. In laws suck!

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    There's a difference between seeing the baby and babysitting him. Take him for a visit, and just hang out over there. I don't understand your confusion.

    There's no confusion. My point is that if she isn't going to be an active member in his life (living 5 minutes away) then she is not entitled to ANY time with him. She hasn't earned it, obviously isn't too pressed about it if she won't even watch him for an hour and at this point for me to take time out to nice and bring him for visits is far more courteous than what she's shown me. I can't stand the sight of her at this point and I'll be damned if I'm gonna sit there(spending my time) and have her pull the "ahh...my baby" bullshit.She's a disgrace of a grandmother to openly take in and care for all these foster kids and has done literally NOTHING for her only biological grandchild. I mean, who does that????

    Think I will go with the advice given "call him on his 10th birthday since you don't "do" babies. "

    This right here makes you sound completely selfish and childish.  You are actually complaining about her taking in children who need help and have families that are unable to care for them.  Are you f'ucking kidding me?

    NO. Not *** kidding you when she collects kids to collect checks. Takes care of other grand kids because SIL is a complete ghetto ** up but my LO get nothing. I don't think that to be childish at all. She has no rights to see my son if she can't show/display she gives a *** about him! 

    so, are you *** kidding me????

    First and foremost, you seem like a really angry person and I hope you are getting help with that.  Second, first you say he's the only grandchild and then you refer to 6 other grandchildren.  Third, I'm having a hard time buying that your MIL is such a bad person when she's taken care of her six other grandchildren and has foster kids.  She's probably tired herself.  She doesn't owe you babysitting for crying out loud.  She's obviously raised your H, his sister, her children and now foster children, if she's offering advice you don't agree with, nod your head and smile.

    I really think you need to get over yourself. 

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    There's a difference between seeing the baby and babysitting him. Take him for a visit, and just hang out over there. I don't understand your confusion.

    There's no confusion. My point is that if she isn't going to be an active member in his life (living 5 minutes away) then she is not entitled to ANY time with him. She hasn't earned it, obviously isn't too pressed about it if she won't even watch him for an hour and at this point for me to take time out to nice and bring him for visits is far more courteous than what she's shown me. I can't stand the sight of her at this point and I'll be damned if I'm gonna sit there(spending my time) and have her pull the "ahh...my baby" bullshit.She's a disgrace of a grandmother to openly take in and care for all these foster kids and has done literally NOTHING for her only biological grandchild. I mean, who does that????

    Think I will go with the advice given "call him on his 10th birthday since you don't "do" babies. "

    This right here makes you sound completely selfish and childish.  You are actually complaining about her taking in children who need help and have families that are unable to care for them.  Are you f'ucking kidding me?

    Yeah, I'm with you. OP, you sound very immature and petty.  You keep going back to your MIL watching your son for you. She is in no way obligated to babysit. And to call her a disgrace for being kind and generous enough to take in children who need homes...you sound very Klassy.

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  • Biological grandchild. Husband sister is adopted. READ the words before you assume. And I am angry about this. This is the ONLY grandmother he has. My parents are deceased. I live in a state where I have NO FAMILY, NO SITTERS and I have to deal with this *** MIL. Judge me if you will, but I find the situation all kinds of fucked up!
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    Biological grandchild. Husband sister is adopted. READ the words before you assume. And I am angry about this. This is the ONLY grandmother he has. My parents are deceased. I live in a state where I have NO FAMILY, NO SITTERS and I have to deal with this *** MIL. Judge me if you will, but I find the situation all kinds of fucked up!

    So you're upset because you think your child should be more important to her than the adopted and foster ones. Uhhhhmmmmkaaaay.  


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    Biological grandchild. Husband sister is adopted. READ the words before you assume. And I am angry about this. This is the ONLY grandmother he has. My parents are deceased. I live in a state where I have NO FAMILY, NO SITTERS and I have to deal with this *** MIL. Judge me if you will, but I find the situation all kinds of fucked up!

    So you're upset because you think your child should be more important to her than the adopted and foster ones. Uhhhhmmmmkaaaay.  


    Why YES. Yes I do! He should at least be on her radar. She didn't even buy him a stitch of clothing...NOTHING!!!!!

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    Biological grandchild. Husband sister is adopted. READ the words before you assume. And I am angry about this. This is the ONLY grandmother he has. My parents are deceased. I live in a state where I have NO FAMILY, NO SITTERS and I have to deal with this *** MIL. Judge me if you will, but I find the situation all kinds of fucked up!

    So you're upset because you think your child should be more important to her than the adopted and foster ones. Uhhhhmmmmkaaaay.  


    Why YES. Yes I do! He should at least be on her radar. She didn't even buy him a stitch of clothing...NOTHING!!!!!

    Because it isn't her job to clothe your child. That is your responsbility. And why is your husband and his child more important than his sister and her kids, because they're adopted?  Just because she didn't push your SIL out of her vag doesn't make her any less important. Grow up and get over yourself.

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    Biological grandchild. Husband sister is adopted. READ the words before you assume. And I am angry about this. This is the ONLY grandmother he has. My parents are deceased. I live in a state where I have NO FAMILY, NO SITTERS and I have to deal with this *** MIL. Judge me if you will, but I find the situation all kinds of fucked up!

    So you're upset because you think your child should be more important to her than the adopted and foster ones. Uhhhhmmmmkaaaay.  

    Why YES. Yes I do! He should at least be on her radar. She didn't even buy him a stitch of clothing...NOTHING!!!!!

    Because it isn't her job to clothe your child. That is your responsbility. And why is your husband and his child more important than his sister and her kids, because they're adopted?  Just because she didn't push your SIL out of her vag doesn't make her any less important. Grow up and get over yourself.

    What makes all these other children so much more important? shouldn't it be equal. OH, she has a big heart, but not big enough for all her grandchildren...bullshit! It's not about BUYING clothing, I am pretty well off without my husbands salary, I think his family resents that. ITS THE PRINCIPAL. SHE HAS DONE ABSOLUTELY NOTHING!!!

    I was in the hospital for 1 month before having him . NOT ONE VISIT! She takes all the other kids to the park, NOT MY SON! It's the principal . She's garbage!

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    Biological grandchild. Husband sister is adopted. READ the words before you assume. And I am angry about this. This is the ONLY grandmother he has. My parents are deceased. I live in a state where I have NO FAMILY, NO SITTERS and I have to deal with this *** MIL. Judge me if you will, but I find the situation all kinds of fucked up!

    So you're upset because you think your child should be more important to her than the adopted and foster ones. Uhhhhmmmmkaaaay.  

    Why YES. Yes I do! He should at least be on her radar. She didn't even buy him a stitch of clothing...NOTHING!!!!!

    Because it isn't her job to clothe your child. That is your responsbility. And why is your husband and his child more important than his sister and her kids, because they're adopted?  Just because she didn't push your SIL out of her vag doesn't make her any less important. Grow up and get over yourself.

     She's garbage!

    And you just sound like the queen of compassion and dignity.

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    Biological grandchild. Husband sister is adopted. READ the words before you assume. And I am angry about this. This is the ONLY grandmother he has. My parents are deceased. I live in a state where I have NO FAMILY, NO SITTERS and I have to deal with this *** MIL. Judge me if you will, but I find the situation all kinds of fucked up!

    So you're upset because you think your child should be more important to her than the adopted and foster ones. Uhhhhmmmmkaaaay.  

    No compassion for garbage honey...take note! Good day to you!

    Why YES. Yes I do! He should at least be on her radar. She didn't even buy him a stitch of clothing...NOTHING!!!!!

    Because it isn't her job to clothe your child. That is your responsbility. And why is your husband and his child more important than his sister and her kids, because they're adopted?  Just because she didn't push your SIL out of her vag doesn't make her any less important. Grow up and get over yourself.

     She's garbage!

    And you just sound like the queen of compassion and dignity.

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    Biological grandchild. Husband sister is adopted. READ the words before you assume. And I am angry about this. This is the ONLY grandmother he has. My parents are deceased. I live in a state where I have NO FAMILY, NO SITTERS and I have to deal with this *** MIL. Judge me if you will, but I find the situation all kinds of fucked up!

    So you're upset because you think your child should be more important to her than the adopted and foster ones. Uhhhhmmmmkaaaay.  

    Why YES. Yes I do! He should at least be on her radar. She didn't even buy him a stitch of clothing...NOTHING!!!!!

    Because it isn't her job to clothe your child. That is your responsbility. And why is your husband and his child more important than his sister and her kids, because they're adopted?  Just because she didn't push your SIL out of her vag doesn't make her any less important. Grow up and get over yourself.

    What makes all these other children so much more important? shouldn't it be equal. OH, she has a big heart, but not big enough for all her grandchildren...bullshit! It's not about BUYING clothing, I am pretty well off without my husbands salary, I think his family resents that. ITS THE PRINCIPAL. SHE HAS DONE ABSOLUTELY NOTHING!!!

    I was in the hospital for 1 month before having him . NOT ONE VISIT! She takes all the other kids to the park, NOT MY SON! It's the principal . She's garbage!

    How dare she take those sub-par children to the park???  Here's a suggestion, why not meet up with her there?

    Oh, and I'm going to reiterate my previous statement, I REALLY think you need some counseling or professional help.  You are way, way, way too angry.

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    Biological grandchild. Husband sister is adopted. READ the words before you assume. And I am angry about this. This is the ONLY grandmother he has. My parents are deceased. I live in a state where I have NO FAMILY, NO SITTERS and I have to deal with this *** MIL. Judge me if you will, but I find the situation all kinds of fucked up!

    So you're upset because you think your child should be more important to her than the adopted and foster ones. Uhhhhmmmmkaaaay.  

    Why YES. Yes I do! He should at least be on her radar. She didn't even buy him a stitch of clothing...NOTHING!!!!!

    Because it isn't her job to clothe your child. That is your responsbility. And why is your husband and his child more important than his sister and her kids, because they're adopted?  Just because she didn't push your SIL out of her vag doesn't make her any less important. Grow up and get over yourself.

    What makes all these other children so much more important? shouldn't it be equal. OH, she has a big heart, but not big enough for all her grandchildren...bullshit! It's not about BUYING clothing, I am pretty well off without my husbands salary, I think his family resents that. ITS THE PRINCIPAL. SHE HAS DONE ABSOLUTELY NOTHING!!!

    I was in the hospital for 1 month before having him . NOT ONE VISIT! She takes all the other kids to the park, NOT MY SON! It's the principal . She's garbage!

    How dare she take those sub-par children to the park???  Here's a suggestion, why not meet up with her there?

    Oh, and I'm going to reiterate my previous statement, I REALLY think you need some counseling or professional help.  You are way, way, way too angry.

    If you didn't pick up on the hint before ( you seem pretty slow on the uptake) your opinion is no longer desired nor required. WTF? Is she your MIL, is she your friend?Kindred spirit?  You are the one taking offense to this post in a most personal way (talk about needing help and way too angry at a situtation that's not even yours!) Take a mop, clean up that bleeding heart yo have for a lady milking the system for checks rather than doing a good deed and deal. THIS POST IS MY OPINION AND EVEN THE HEADING states this is a vent. So, my little mental midget, explore WHY this post makes YOU so mad. Seriously, WTF? psycho!

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    Biological grandchild. Husband sister is adopted. READ the words before you assume. And I am angry about this. This is the ONLY grandmother he has. My parents are deceased. I live in a state where I have NO FAMILY, NO SITTERS and I have to deal with this *** MIL. Judge me if you will, but I find the situation all kinds of fucked up!

    So you're upset because you think your child should be more important to her than the adopted and foster ones. Uhhhhmmmmkaaaay.  

    Why YES. Yes I do! He should at least be on her radar. She didn't even buy him a stitch of clothing...NOTHING!!!!!

    Because it isn't her job to clothe your child. That is your responsbility. And why is your husband and his child more important than his sister and her kids, because they're adopted?  Just because she didn't push your SIL out of her vag doesn't make her any less important. Grow up and get over yourself.

    What makes all these other children so much more important? shouldn't it be equal. OH, she has a big heart, but not big enough for all her grandchildren...bullshit! It's not about BUYING clothing, I am pretty well off without my husbands salary, I think his family resents that. ITS THE PRINCIPAL. SHE HAS DONE ABSOLUTELY NOTHING!!!

    I was in the hospital for 1 month before having him . NOT ONE VISIT! She takes all the other kids to the park, NOT MY SON! It's the principal . She's garbage!

    How dare she take those sub-par children to the park???  Here's a suggestion, why not meet up with her there?

    Oh, and I'm going to reiterate my previous statement, I REALLY think you need some counseling or professional help.  You are way, way, way too angry.

    Your kid is 3 months old or younger (I'm assuming, since you're posting it here).  What on earth is he going to do at a park?  Maybe your MIL realizes that watching your baby plus all the other kids running around the playground is too much.  Maybe once he's old enough to be out playing with the other kids, she'll invite him along.

     It sounds like you're still looking for free babysitting and are irritated that MIL (who is already taking care of several children) said it wasn't her thing.  She's not obligated to provide babysitting for your child and to require that for her to spend any time with him sounds incredibly childish and unfair. There are plenty of babysitters out there.  If you need one, pay one to do the job.  Maybe there's a lot more back story than you're posting here, but it sounds like you're the problem in this situation a lot more than your MIL is.

    Andplusalso, adopted and/or foster children should get no less love than biological children. 

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    If you didn't pick up on the hint before ( you seem pretty slow on the uptake) your opinion is no longer desired nor required. WTF? Is she your MIL, is she your friend?Kindred spirit?  You are the one taking offense to this post in a most personal way (talk about needing help and way too angry at a situtation that's not even yours!) Take a mop, clean up that bleeding heart yo have for a lady milking the system for checks rather than doing a good deed and deal. THIS POST IS MY OPINION AND EVEN THE HEADING states this is a vent. So, my little mental midget, explore WHY this post makes YOU so mad. Seriously, WTF? psycho!

    The heading also states you "need some opinions."  That's what you got.  Agree with them or not, but don't pretend to want to hear what other people think when all you want is for them to tell you what a bi*ch your MIL is.

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    Biological grandchild. Husband sister is adopted. READ the words before you assume. And I am angry about this. This is the ONLY grandmother he has. My parents are deceased. I live in a state where I have NO FAMILY, NO SITTERS and I have to deal with this *** MIL. Judge me if you will, but I find the situation all kinds of fucked up!

    So you're upset because you think your child should be more important to her than the adopted and foster ones. Uhhhhmmmmkaaaay.  

    Why YES. Yes I do! He should at least be on her radar. She didn't even buy him a stitch of clothing...NOTHING!!!!!

    Because it isn't her job to clothe your child. That is your responsbility. And why is your husband and his child more important than his sister and her kids, because they're adopted?  Just because she didn't push your SIL out of her vag doesn't make her any less important. Grow up and get over yourself.

    What makes all these other children so much more important? shouldn't it be equal. OH, she has a big heart, but not big enough for all her grandchildren...bullshit! It's not about BUYING clothing, I am pretty well off without my husbands salary, I think his family resents that. ITS THE PRINCIPAL. SHE HAS DONE ABSOLUTELY NOTHING!!!

    I was in the hospital for 1 month before having him . NOT ONE VISIT! She takes all the other kids to the park, NOT MY SON! It's the principal . She's garbage!

    How dare she take those sub-par children to the park???  Here's a suggestion, why not meet up with her there?

    Oh, and I'm going to reiterate my previous statement, I REALLY think you need some counseling or professional help.  You are way, way, way too angry.

    Your kid is 3 months old or younger (I'm assuming, since you're posting it here).  What on earth is he going to do at a park?  Maybe your MIL realizes that watching your baby plus all the other kids running around the playground is too much.  Maybe once he's old enough to be out playing with the other kids, she'll invite him along.

     It sounds like you're still looking for free babysitting and are irritated that MIL (who is already taking care of several children) said it wasn't her thing.  She's not obligated to provide babysitting for your child and to require that for her to spend any time with him sounds incredibly childish and unfair. There are plenty of babysitters out there.  If you need one, pay one to do the job.  Maybe there's a lot more back story than you're posting here, but it sounds like you're the problem in this situation a lot more than your MIL is.

    Andplusalso, adopted and/or foster children should get no less love than biological children. 

    And they shouldn't get more than my child! Oh please with this bleeding heart bullshit!!! It's not about FREE babysitting. Its her complaining she gets no time with him...THEN MAKE TIME! WATCH HIM! If even for an hour. HELLO! it's about quality time. But she doesn't get a check from the state for that...soo...

  • She shouldn't have to babysit to get to spend time with your child.  Bring him over for a visit.  Invite her to come visit you.  But requiring her to watch him for you to see him at all is ridiculous.  Clearly you don't see this. 
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  • image Sherbet Lemon:
    She shouldn't have to babysit to get to spend time with your child.  Bring him over for a visit.  Invite her to come visit you.  But requiring her to watch him for you to see him at all is ridiculous.  Clearly you don't see this. 

    I do take him. Once every 2 weeks, when my schedule allows. That's all I'm willing to bend. SHE doesn't work, lives 5 minutes away, she can come take him nor pick him up while me or DH are working. I don't want her in my home.

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    image Sherbet Lemon:
    She shouldn't have to babysit to get to spend time with your child.  Bring him over for a visit.  Invite her to come visit you.  But requiring her to watch him for you to see him at all is ridiculous.  Clearly you don't see this. 

    I do take him. Once every 2 weeks, when my schedule allows. That's all I'm willing to bend. SHE doesn't work, lives 5 minutes away, she can come take him nor pick him up while me or DH are working. I don't want her in my home.

    There you go AGAIN with the babysitting, while still claiming that's not what it's about. Just stop.

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