Help! I have two little girls (25 months and 13 months). My 2 year old has really been terrible the last month or so. To begin with, she is very active ? on the go unless she is sleeping?never walk ? always runs. Repeats everything I say, tells me at dinner she wants something else (point of me mentioning this is that she has a lot of words in her vocabulary and tells me what she wants). My husband and I work full time and he travels 2 days a week. I usually have everything under control for dinner and packing lunches. We have time to play for an hour before baths and books. I feel like a broken record.
Here was a recap of last evening. We leave daycare, I bring a few toys in the car, after 5 minutes she throws it on the floor We get home at 5. The girls play in the living room while I pull together dinner (15 minutes). In that 15 minutes, she stands on the couch and jumps (every night I ask her to sit down so she doesn?t fall), hits her sister, screams over nothing (screaming has been a HUGE problem the last 2 weeks ? in church, when it is time to clean up, any time she has to do something she doesn?t want to (high pitched- nails on a chalk board scream). We sit down for dinner. I always give her a choice, do you want carrots or cucumbers? She use to pick one thing, now she just says NO. So I get something for my younger daughter. I ask my 2 year old if she wants chicken or a peanut butter sandwich (in the past she would say which she wants). Now she says no. So I put the chicken away and she starts screaming she wants chicken. SO I pull back out the chicken cut it up and put it on her tray. She then takes it and puts is on the table or throws it on the floor and says she wants something else. This continues with fruit choice ? strawberries or melon. So I get her to finally eat something.
I clean them up and let them play for 5 minutes while I load the dishwasher. In that time she is jumping on the couch and trying to open the baby gate to go upstairs. She gets it open and of course my youngest is following her. Every night, I tell her she is not to go up the stairs with out Mom or Dad behind her (thus the baby gate to prevent). So she comes back down stairs and I ask her to pick up her toys so be can go take a bath. She starts telling me that (my youngest) made the mess and tells her to clean it up. I always help her clean up so it is not just her that has to clean up. So we finally get upstairs to take a bath, I change my youngest and my 2 year old runs in her bed room and starts pulling all the clothes out of her drawers (she knows better). I bathe the girls together ? they play so I can put clean clothes away etc. ? I am right there, their bedrooms are next to the bathroom. My 2 year old starts drinking the bath water?again every night, we tell her not to drink the bath water. At this point I lost it. I feel like all I do is tell her no and each time I have to do it, I get angrier and angrier. What should I do? I put her to bed and cry for 10-15 minutes. She is going to hate me. Sorry so long. I feel so guilty I can hardly breathe. I want to have fun with my kids in the evening? not be the mean mom. Any suggestions? Thank you.