While I'm at work during the day, my son drinks three 5-oz bottles of pumped BM with three hours between feedings, around 9ish, 12ish, and 3ish. He doesn't have any trouble with them, never seems hungry afterwards, etc. Seems like all that is going well.
When I get home, I BF him around 6ish, then when we do our bedtime routine of bath-lotion-jammies-book-BF-bed, he will eat between 7:30-8:00 until he falls asleep or almost asleep, then I put him in his crib in his nursery.
Usually he will sleep until between 10:30-11:30, which is when I'm going to bed too, so I'll take him out of his crib into bed with me for him to eat, at which point we will both end up falling asleep. He kinda half wakes up throughout the night maybe 2 or 3 times to eat, he usually just finds my boob in the dark and starts nursing. I don't know if he is truly hungry or just being comforted or what. He stays in the bed with me until I get up for work.
What have I done?! Did I create a monster? Could this be reverse cycling? That he wants to comfort nurse all night? That he prefers to be snuggled in bed with us to being all lonely in his big empty crib?
Is this a bad pattern that I'm allowing? Or do some of y'all do something similar?
I know everyone always cringes when I tell them I let him nurse through the night in bed... it is definitely not an ideal situation, and I get it. But I have to work 10 hour days, and I need my sleep too! The alternative -- getting out of bed, going to the nursery, nursing him in the chair, getting him back to sleep, coming back to my room, getting myself back to sleep -- is just not appealing to me at all. But should I just suck it up to fix this problem?
I really don't want a 3 year old refusing to sleep in his own room down the line because I am allowing this now... (I know I'm exaggerating a little here, but you know what I mean, right?)
Help!! Any advice is appreciated, as always...!