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C-section vs VDelivery?

I always figured I'd try to avoid a c-section if possible, not being cut open sounded better than the alternative. However, the more I hear about what happens during the aftermath/healing/time it takes to be regular down there...I'm terrified! Does anyone have info-advice to weigh in? This may seem silly, but is it really 3 mo until you can have sex again?

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  • Are you looking to do an elective c-sec just to avoid things getting wacky down there? I had a c-sec, and the recovery sucked, but I got the green light for sex at 6 weeks. So did most of the people I know who had vag deliveries. I just didn't WANT to have sex for MONTHS afterwards.

    Also, don't do a c-sec just to avoid "aftermath" down there. A natural vag birth is MUCH preferred than major abdominal surgery. 

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    A c-section is major surgery- I'm sure you understand the risks invovled.  Sometimes a c-section is necessary but its only after your/baby health outweighs the risks.  Not to mention, you have a lot more restrictions after a c-section than a vaginal.  As for sex- some doctors say 6 weeks (I've never heard 3 months).  Mine said whenever I'm comfortable (I never tore) and when I have stopped bleeding (that lasted @ 10 days).  I was comfortable at week 3.  But to be honest, if I had a choice of a vagnial birth and not having sex for 3 months vs. a c-section, I'd still choose vaginal. 

  • If your doctor would actually do an elective c-section just to preserve the sanctity of your vag, you need a new doctor. Just FYI.
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  • Well, you don't really get to choose, so this isn't something you should worry about now.  Just let things progress and if a C-section is necessary, deal with it then.

     

    Honestly I didn't think the c-sec was that bad, even the recovery. I may choose it over a Vbac for the reason I get 2 more weeks of short term disability pay.... 

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  • lol, maybe i need to clarify that i'm not getting an "option" i'm only interested in hearing both sides! most of the women in my family ended up w/ c-sections. i simply curious, as i recently was told about someone having to wait about 3 months. 

  • It just depends.  I had a small baby so my healing wasn't that bad.  I'm really freaked out by any sort of surgery so I plan on avoiding a CS unless it's absolutely necessary.  There's a reason you're given longer to recover from a CS than vaginal delivery...
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  • I had a vag. the first time around and yeah, I'm not going to lie it sucked, I tore and had 2 stitches and that got infected and itchy.  I (personally) could not have sex for 3 months, maybe more, I can't really remember.

    But I healed and am fine now.  My Sister and SIL both had C-Sections (unplanned) and both also had complications far worse then what I went through.  Everyone is different, but I would def. choose vag before c-section any day.

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    Are you looking to do an elective c-sec just to avoid things getting wacky down there? I had a c-sec, and the recovery sucked, but I got the green light for sex at 6 weeks. So did most of the people I know who had vag deliveries. I just didn't WANT to have sex for MONTHS afterwards.

    Also, don't do a c-sec just to avoid "aftermath" down there. A natural vag birth is MUCH preferred than major abdominal surgery. 

     

    This! I had an emergency c-section and recovery was the worst!  I was able to have sex after 6 weeks but like PP I didn't want to for months.  My Dr. finally gave me the ok for working out after 9 weeks.  I plan on VBAC for this one no doubt!  I really hope I can because the recovery like I said, was terrible.  I hope you don't get a c-section unless you really have to..

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  • I had a scheduled c-section with DS. My OB and I decided it was the best decision for me. DS was not dropping at all and she thought that my pelvis was the wrong shape to deliver vaginally, in this case I would end up with an emergency c-section. The thought of it in an emergency situation when my OB was "90% sure" that I would end up with a c-section seemed stupid to me. I elected to schedule my c-section, we did it in my 39th week, the pain was not bad, recovery was better than I expected and I will do a RCS this time around. I hope to have the same uncomplicated procedure and recovery this time around.
  • I've never heard anything about waiting 3 months for a standard vaginal delivery or a standard c-section.  The wait time is typically 6 weeks for BOTH types of delivery and has nothing to do with how the baby comes out.  It has to do with the gaping wound in your uterus where the placenta detaches.  Sex can cause infection in the uterus after either type of delivery and all women are typically seen 6 weeks post partum to ensure that they appear to be fully healed and ready for normal activity again (including intercourse).  

    I had a vaginal delivery with a 10lb baby, a second degree tear, and I was cleared to resume normal activity at 6 weeks post partum. 

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    lol, maybe i need to clarify that i'm not getting an "option" i'm only interested in hearing both sides! most of the women in my family ended up w/ c-sections. i simply curious, as i recently was told about someone having to wait about 3 months. 

    I was cleared at my 8w PP appointment.

    Why did your family members have c-sections?

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    I had to get 8 stitches after a vaginal delivery and was sore for a couple weeks, but my dr seemed surprised we hadn't had sex at our 6 week. I was a little scared to, so we waited a few more weeks after that. But that was just a personal decision.

    You are going to have recovery time for both. I would avoid having a c-section if at all possible.






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  • My family has a history of needing c-sections as well because the pelvic bones don't seperate enough.  I had a very very rough vaginal delivery.  Long story short baby was 8 lbs, sunny side up and stuck under my pelvic bone (bc it did not seperate large enough) so doctor had to pull DD out with the vaccum.  This resulted in a 4th degree episiotomy for me and a broken collar bone for DD (which healed in 8 weeks).  So this time around I still want to try for a vaginal delivery but we've decided if we think baby is bigger or we end up in the same situation as last time--then we will move to a c section.  But even with my more traumatic experience I would still choose vaginal delivery over major surgery.
  • I had a c-section after 18 hours of dlabor  The recovery was horrible. However, it was nice being able to pee without any pain. I will probably have an elective c-section this time, simply because I know wht to expect with recovery and I won't be going through 18 hour of labor prior to surgery. It sounds like this is your it child-if that Is the case, I would try for a vaginal birth. 

    I coulnt drive for several weeks after my c-section. And I was like a rabbit in heat wanting to have sex with DH. I had to wait 6-8 weeks. 

     Dont expect to laugh or cough without pain. Always have a Pillow nearby to press on your stomach. It requires a lot more time for sleeping to recover and w a new born, that's tricky :). Walking is difficult at first, and here is a possibility of a spinal headache after a c-section-which requires another epidural to get rid of it.  

    ETA:  I've heard one people say that their recovery was a breeze. I think it depends on age, what labor you had (or didnt) have to go through, etc.  


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    My family has a history of needing c-sections as well because the pelvic bones don't seperate enough.  I had a very very rough vaginal delivery.  Long story short baby was 8 lbs, sunny side up and stuck under my pelvic bone (bc it did not seperate large enough) so doctor had to pull DD out with the vaccum.  This resulted in a 4th degree episiotomy for me and a broken collar bone for DD (which healed in 8 weeks).  So this time around I still want to try for a vaginal delivery but we've decided if we think baby is bigger or we end up in the same situation as last time--then we will move to a c section.  But even with my more traumatic experience I would still choose vaginal delivery over major surgery.

     

    That is so sad. Glad dd is ok!! 


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  • I would much rather have to heal down there rather than have a C-Section. It's nothing you can't handle. It takes time to heal either way, vaginal or c-section. If you are most worried about having sex, the 6 week rule is to avoid infection and to allow your body to heal properly. 
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    I didn't want to have or plan my c/s. I labored for 24 hours after being induced for PIH.

    This time I'm hoping to for a VBAC. I don't want to have major surgery if it can be avoided. Having my stomach & uterus cut into, my insides taken out, then put back in... then having to spend 6 weeks recovering? Not fun. Nope.

     

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  • I recommend that if you do not need a C-section, that you do not get one. 

    I delivered my DS's head (even had an episiotomy) and then had to have a C-section (don't be scared, this is EXTREMELY RARE).  So, basically, I got the joy of both types of delivery at once.

    I will say that the episiotomy and vaginal "aftermath" was much easier to heal from than the C-section itself.  If I had only the episiotomy to deal with, then my recovery would have been simple.  Yes, the vag is stretched and looks/feels funny at first, but everything WILL go back to normal down there in time.

    I still got very lucky with the C-section, but it is major abdominal surgery, and I had to take it very slowly for quite a while afterwards.

    Oh, and most people are authorized to have sex again at 6 weeks (so only 1.5 months) or so, vaginal or C-section because the reason for waiting to have sex is to allow the wound where the placenta detaches from to heal and to avoid introducing unnecessary bacteria from entering and possibly causing infection.  It has nothing to do with whether the delivery was vaginal or C-section.  Even C-sections have to wait to have sex.

    ETA:  because of the complications of my delivery, my OB gave me the okay at 8 weeks, and we still waited until 10, as I just wasn't ready prior to that.


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    image ashdonne:
    My family has a history of needing c-sections as well because the pelvic bones don't seperate enough.  I had a very very rough vaginal delivery.  Long story short baby was 8 lbs, sunny side up and stuck under my pelvic bone (bc it did not seperate large enough) so doctor had to pull DD out with the vaccum.  This resulted in a 4th degree episiotomy for me and a broken collar bone for DD (which healed in 8 weeks).  So this time around I still want to try for a vaginal delivery but we've decided if we think baby is bigger or we end up in the same situation as last time--then we will move to a c section.  But even with my more traumatic experience I would still choose vaginal delivery over major surgery.

     

    That is so sad. Glad dd is ok!! 

    Thanks!  I also have a new doctor this time around ;)

  • Oh deat try a natural thats how its supposed to be.  I tore (right through my clit) but the stitches fell out at a week and a half.  I had a bucket I filled with hot water that I would sit in to pee.  It stung so bad I couldn't pee unless I sat in the water to wash away the acidic urine.  I did this in the shower. lol I had to figure it out otherwise my midwife would have given me a catheter and noooo way that was going to happen.  I could have had sex at two weeks.

    Another thing to keep in mind...one of the reasons babies don't drop or move into position is because your hips are out of alignment.  A visit to a chiropractor who knows how to do this will help your birthing process go smoothly and help prevent C/S's.  Your hips pop in and out while pregnant preparing for birth and often end up a bit wacky.  My hips are constantly in need of adjustment.  I didn't know this before I had my first and didn't have any problems.  But keep that in mind.  If your hips are right you won't have to work as hard either.

    There are exercises for helping your vagina return to normal.  Its naturally done through nursing your child it causes little contractions to shrink your uterus and return your vagina to its normal self.  I did additional exercises.  I would contract my vagina and hold it.  That pulls it together again.   I was just as tight after birth as I was before.  Best of luck ladies 

       

  • My doctor gave me the green light to have sex at three weeks postpartum and I told her she was out of her mind. We waited until five weeks PP and everything was fine just took a little extra time to adjust to the changes to my body.

    Truth be told, I don't know anyone who wanted to have sex for at least several weeks after birth regardless of how the baby was born. There's too much going on, nobody's sleeping, you're still bloated/constipated, and not to mention the fact that about the time you start having sex the baby wakes up and starts crying. 

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    My doctor gave me the green light to have sex at three weeks postpartum and I told her she was out of her mind. We waited until five weeks PP and everything was fine just took a little extra time to adjust to the changes to my body.

    Truth be told, I don't know anyone who wanted to have sex for at least several weeks after birth regardless of how the baby was born. There's too much going on, nobody's sleeping, you're still bloated/constipated, and not to mention the fact that about the time you start having sex the baby wakes up and starts crying. 

    100% true.  I was totally fine waiting the customary 6 weeks.

  • I think you haven't done enough research or someONE gave you their bad experience.

     I had a vaginal birth & as long as your doctor isn't a dumbass and makes sure your baby isn't too big to make it through the birth canal you should be just fine. I tore & had to be stitched but I was having sex 6 weeks later. And it didn't hurt. Sure there are women that probably still hurt at 3 months out, but that's not the case for everyone.

    C-sections take just as long, if not longer, to heal! They hurt & you can barely move afterward. Holding your baby even hurts for some.

    Either way, delivering a baby  isn't a piece of cake. You're getting a human out of you. You will be in pain. It should be expected IMO.


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  • I had an emergency c-section because the cord was wrapped around my sons neck and his heart rate was dropping. It wasn't what I had planned, but I knew that it was best for both of us. In the end, you just want a healthy mom and baby.

    The recovery was so much easier than I thought it would be. You can't get out of bed for the first day, but after that you can pretty much do anything, just take it slow. FYI- you still bleed with a c-section. They say you should wait 6 weeks to DTD, we waited 4 weeks but didn't rush into it.

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    The recovery was so much easier than I thought it would be. You can't get out of bed for the first day, but after that you can pretty much do anything, just take it slow. FYI- you still bleed with a c-section. They say you should wait 6 weeks to DTD, we waited 4 weeks but didn't rush into it.

    Please keep in mind that not all c-section recoveries are equal.  Some women can't do just about anything. I vacuumed 2 weeks PP, and busted my incision open. Also, sex at 4 weeks PP before being cleared by a doctor is dangerous.

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  • The plan with DS was to have a vaginal birth, but after 21 hours of labor I was sent to the OR to get him out. I was labeled as "failure to progress" and "failure to descend." My c-section recovery was horrible and very painful. I can't say what it would have been like to recover from a vaginal birth, but it seems it would have to be less painful than what I experienced. Then again, every woman's birth story is different. So who knows?

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  • I've had both and prefer Vaginal delivery.  After a vaginal we had sex like 3-4 weeks later.  It was WAY longer after the cesareans.
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  • A three month wait time would probably only happen if there was some sort of complication or infection. Elective c-sections just for the kick of bypassing vaginal delivery is ridiculous. And sex will probably be the last thing on your mind for the first weeks with a newborn anyway. That time really does fly by
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  • I am really hoping that I will not have to have a CS but I have a different shaped uterus that is hereditary and my mom had to have a CS both times bc we were breech. CS is major surgery so I would really prefer to avoid that.
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