Let me tell you about me and my partner, Now this is mostly gonna be a rant/vent thing, but if anyone does want to answer I will be grateful.
Me and my partner have known each other for 10 years, but only been together for 21/2 and living together for a year. I discovered I was pregnant around xmas time and we were both excited and rather nervous. After a while I sat and thought about it seriously. My fallopian tubes are partly collapsed after an isotopic pregnancy from when I was much younger and I was told the chances of me getting naturally pregnant were less than 4%. Because he is currently here on a temporary visa from Australia and I'm a mature student it raised alot of questions about our future. But because the chances were so slim, I took the chance and decided to keep the baby.
Both of us have very little in the way of support from our families, my parents are separated so I have two family's to gain support from but my dad side are strict catholic and are VERY against me keeping the baby so i'm pretty much cut off from them, my mum's side are much more keen but they live around 6 hours away so I have no physical support and they are not greatly financially supported themselves so I loath to take money from them. And of course all his family live in Australia so they cannot physically support us and he also does not wish to take money from them.
So we NEED to depend on each other. The problem is.. he isnt pulling his weight. He works long shifts and says he works hard.. but he spends alot of time at work on facebook or playing games on his iphone. Because he works long hours I tend to be alone most of the day and with no friends or family to visit I tend to sit around the flat getting depressed and bored. My midwife has suggested I keep busy, to help with my depression but my doctors have told me to rest since my pregnancy is very complicated as I lost my mucus plug and I'm leaking fluid So i spend my life between the hospital and flat and alone.
Because I was getting so lonely and depressed I started to have "dark moments" so I got alittle puppy to keep me company this helped wonderfully but I found I'm looking after the puppy alone and slowly realised that I was alone.
Things my partner wont do;
Feed, walk, play with the dog.
He wont clean up the dog waste on the puppy pad and he left it once three days before I gave in and cleaned it myself.
He wont empty the normal bin - because it smells,
He hasn't help buy anything for the baby ie;
no large items - Pram, crib etc
He hasn't bought food or toys for the puppy EVER
If I cook a meal he doesn't wash up EVER
After I wash the pots he uses them again and leaves them for me to clean.
He rarely purchases shopping, unless I tell him too.
He spent the SAME amount of money I have spent on the baby on BOOZE!
No really - large bottles of whisky, rum crates of cider.
He literally comes home sits down with a alcoholic drink and spends another 2/3 hours up drinking before coming to bed.
He will sleep in to 1/2pm everyday meaning I have to get up feed the dog, take it for morning walk, clean the pots from last nights drinking/feeding session. - if I dont he just leaves them.. i waited over 3 days and eventually had to wash 3 days worth of stuff.
This morning I got up to feed the dog and realised that the puppy had chewed through my pc cable, and managed to grab my teddy from the side table and gut it, the teddy I have had since I was a baby. I was heartbroken, when I tried to wake him he just said so its your dog.
So I shut the dog in the bedroom with him to calm down with a cup of tea the dog was whining so much he let it out and told me off for shutting it in.
which let to an argument eventually the money came up and he said well I never asked for the dog. When I asked did he feel the same way about the baby he just stormed back to the bedroom and slammed the door.
Leaving me stood there with the feeling he doesn't want the baby either.
I love him, I really do.. but He so lazy and unmotivated that I'm fed up of it all.
We haven't been intimate for a while, but he expects me to give him oral when he has the urge.. and he spends alot of time watching porn, mostly after I gone to bed or in the shower.
I really just feel like walking away from it all..
My mum is coming down in a few weeks and I'm tempted to just go back with her.
He just doesn't seem ready to give up his "youth" we're both 26 but he acts like he is 18 and I'm going on 36..
Feeling better now...
I actually written this out twice xD I wrote about 3 A4 pages first time and just trimmed it down. Their really is so much more I can tell you, like how he said i'm using the pregnancy to be lazy. eve thou he knows I'm under doctors orders to rest and do as little as possible..
Thanks for reading if you got this far!
EDIT - Ok, their seems to be some confusion here, we BOTH agree'd on the puppy.