At this age most of their "lies" are them just not really understanding what is happening, or fantasy play, or a mixture of that. For example LO once told me her preschool teacher got mad at her and hit her. Well, I KNOW that didn't happen, but maybe soon after (or not soon, kids get time messed up) LO misbehaved, her teacher's hand accidentally swung back into LO. So it's "possible" on LO's mind the two events (teacher being "mad" and teacher "hitting" her) were connected.
Yesterday I heard LO moving around upstairs and went to get her up. She's theoretically supposed to stay in bed j til her clock changes colors or we come get her but it was 5 minutes early. I wasn't upset. It actually barely registered. Anyway, LO was wearing shoes. I said, "I see you are wearing your red. shoes." Just totally neutral. She said, "I didn't get out of bed." Hmmm... so I was thinking maybe they were next to her bed as happens sometimes. She continued, "I didn't get out of bed to go get them." "Oh? How did they get on your feet?" "Atticus got them for me and put them on me." (Atticus is her bff in another part of town). I just said, "Nooooooooooooo..." the way I say in a silly voice if she says a P is a J or something, and then said, "I think Charlotte got the shoes and put them on."But... what do you do? Or what are you supposed to do? I want "the truth" to be safe for her. I was raised with a lot of judgment and lied a lot to avoid that, and while I outgrew it and the truth is really important to me, my sister is still a lying liar who lies. She's not even three so there definitely won't be "consequences" for lying, but is there a way to introduce the concept or anything like that.
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