We're planning DD's first birthday party in June. DH's mother has 5 siblings and they are all very close, we celebrate all holidays together, go to their kids' grad parties, showers, etc. So we were planning to invite these 5 sets of aunts/uncles. When I mentioned it to DH's mom, she stopped me and said that she would like to "feel them out" to see if they would even want to come. (???) The next day, she forwarded me the email response from one of the aunts who was asked. The aunt started out by saying how lucky MIL is to have a grandchild in town, and then said "If a notice went out for cake, ice cream and no gifts, that would be great!"
Not that I am fishing for gifts here, but it struck me as odd that she specified we were to say "no gifts please" in order for them to come.
We were just wanting to celebrate our DD's first b-day with about 20
relatives/friends, and then wouldn't have a big shindig like this in the
future. I wasn't planning to say anything about gifts on the
invitations at all, and if people wanted to bring them or not, we were
cool with anything. So now I am wondering, is it best to specify "no
gifts please" on first birthday invites? Or do I need to write that on
there due to her "requirement" if we are to invite the aunts/uncles? Or
do I only write it on that set of aunt/uncle invites -- but then if I do
that, would it be weird if other people brought gifts after these
aunts/uncles were told not to bring gifts? I really don't know what is best to do for this situation, so any ideas are appreciated! TIA!