My husband and I have a 12 year old daughter together, whom we were given a shower, hosted by my mother and aunts, for in February of 2000. Not to get too detail specific, but things with my hubby's family were "strained" during this time, and his family came, but not all of them, and they didn't help with anything for the shower, or offer to.
So, we saved all of her baby stuff, but, alas, none of it meets safety standards anymore, lol. We had a toxic mold infestation in our first home, and had to get rid of a lot of what we could have used. I'm left with a few bags (Thank GOD) of her baby & toddler clothes, some toys, and her crib set, which we can't use due to safety standards.
We are expecting in early September, and found out that we're having a boy. My Mother & sister insisted that they host a shower for us. I don't normally love the idea of second showers, but they keep reminding me that it's been over a decade, and that they want to celebrate us... Then my MIL called, and she told me that she really wanted to be a part of hosting the shower- especially because of the circumstances surrounding the last shower, and because they're so proud of what good parents we are and how much we've done with our lives, etc. We were young & unmarried when we got pregnant with our daughter. His family was not overly happy about this, nor overly supportive. So, now that we've proven everyone wrong, they want to celebrate us adding to our family...
The mom's have decided they want to host the shower at a banquet hall or country club setting, catered. I feel like this is WAY too much! Like I said, my family doesn't do second showers. We get together to meet & celebrate the baby, we bring food & presents, but no registry, no big hall, nothing crazy like that. In fact, my first shower was at my aunt's house (which is beautiful- but free!!) and we had about 50 people. This one will be more like 75 people.
Do you think I am wrong if I let them have their fun and throw this shower? Hubby & I feel really guilty. We do ok- we own our home with a very small mortgage, he is actually just finishing school, but is currently a network engineer. We're not rich by any means, but we planned this baby, and figured out how we would budget to get what we needed for this baby. But, should I forgo people celebrating for us out of guilt? I just don't know!
If you read all of this- I'm impressed! Thanks for any advice!!