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WWYD? Wedding question...

My cousin is getting married this summer about 30 minutes from my house.  We got the invitation last week and they included our kids on it (which was super sweet).  Normally, I am opposed to bringing my kids to weddings (even if they are invited, never if they aren't!), but I am a little tempted to take them to this one.  The reason being that a lot of that side of the family hasn't ever met them (thanks to my crazy cousin who I have posted about on here once before - she is the one that has had us booted from the family over a Christmas gift exchange issue).  Anyway, DH doesn't want to take them - he thinks it is too late and they won't last long at the reception. I think we take them anyway and then duck out early to get them home.  Plus, my mom is the person who usually watches them and since they will be at the wedding that means we would have to find a babysitter for both the rehearsal dinner and the wedding.

WWYD?

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  • Personally, I would get a sitter.  I can't think of anything less fun than bringing my kids to a wedding
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  • image eaglesfan700:
    Personally, I would get a sitter.  I can't think of anything less fun than bringing my kids to a wedding

    Normally, that is 100% my thoughts on it.  But, I am so torn because they haven't met a lot of my family (who live out of town) and my uncle is in such bad health.

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  • What is the wedding schedule like? I'd try to bring them to part but not all. Example: you could bring them to a cocktail hour time and then one of you could run them home to a sitter and come back for the reception. They'd get to see family but you'd still get to enjoy.

    That obviously won't work in all scenarios but I'd look at the schedule of events to see if there's one part that would be kid friendly and has a little time after that one of you is willing to miss to bring them home. 

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  • Do you know someone in that area that you could ask to watch the kids for the reception? That way they can meet the family after the wedding but you would be able to enjoy the reception. 
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  • image eaglesfan700:
    Personally, I would get a sitter.  I can't think of anything less fun than bringing my kids to a wedding

    This. 

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  • For us, it's a no brainer.  Family events, especially weddings include the kids too.  All of DH's cousins would have their kids there too.  It is fun to watch all the kids dance together too.

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    For us, it's a no brainer.  Family events, especially weddings include the kids too. It is fun to watch all the kids dance together too.

    This is us too.  If you are worried about them making it the entire time I agree with a PP to have someone lined up so the kids can come to the first part of the reception and then you can run them home to the sitter.   

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  • This is just my situation, and may not work for you. I plan to take DD to any wedding I may attend this year. Anywhere I go, I leave when she gets tired or fussy. Whether we are there for 30 min. or hours. It would be odd in my group of friends to not bring your children to a wedding or any get together.
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  • I'd bring them and let them meet the family.  But I'd also leave the minute there was signs of an impending meltdown.

    But, my kid is small so I've never taken him to anything fancy.  But I personally love little kids at weddings.  They're adorable!

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  • I would bring them. but my kids are fine when we fiddle with their schedules so a late night would be nbd to them. i bet they would love dancing and stuff.

    we had kids at our wedding. i put kid friendly stuff in a brown bag for each one. i made coloring pages, crayons, glow stick bracelets, stickers, a few sweets, juice box.. they came out cute.  and i loved dancing with them and just having them there.  

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  • image Arnegard:
    For us, it's a no brainer.  Family events, especially weddings include the kids too.  All of DH's cousins would have their kids there too.  It is fun to watch all the kids dance together too.
    Us too. The boys were so excited about the cake and dancing, but fell asleep during speeches at about 8:30pm and slept through the entire reception in the corner so we stayed until the very end at 1am. DD on the other hand stayed up late laughing in my arms on the dance floor until she finally fell asleep in the moby. Weddings with kids are so unpredictable, but we always go with the flow and manage fine. But when the kids are invited, I always bring them to family weddings.

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  • image Arnegard:
    For us, it's a no brainer.  Family events, especially weddings include the kids too.  All of DH's cousins would have their kids there too.  It is fun to watch all the kids dance together too.

    Yes

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  • I don't normally enjoy taking DS to weddings, but I can see your hesitation since there will be family there that has never met them. I would probably take them because it sounds like there might be enough people around to help keep them occupied. For the ceremony, I'd sit as far in back as I could in case I needed to duck out.
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    image Arnegard:
    For us, it's a no brainer.  Family events, especially weddings include the kids too.  All of DH's cousins would have their kids there too.  It is fun to watch all the kids dance together too.

    Yes

    Us too! I would take the kids if I were you. You can always leave early if they start to get tired or act out. But they might surprise you and they'll probably have fun.

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  •  FWIW, I am stickler for etiquette.

    Without a formal invite for my children, the thought of asking to bring them would never cross my mind. Conversely,  the fact they are included on the invitation explicitly would mean that the bride & groom want them to be there.

    So, even though I'd prefer to party without them, I'd suck it up for the evening and bring them.

     

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