My mother and I have a strained relationship. She lives in another state so I don't see her that often. She visited for Easter, and it was pretty bad--it's stressful getting ready for her, and she's a total passive agressive drama queen. She also tried undermining some parenting decisions my husband and I made with my daughter, and told us that we shouldn't put her in time-out because she's "just a baby" (and almost three years old "baby").
This visit convinced me that I do not want her to visit during my maternity leave. She visited with kid #1 for a week--she stayed in a hotel but came over from 7am-9pm every day for a week. She came to "help"--which translated to her asking me what is for dinner and offering to hold DD so I could clean. It was a stressful week where every parenting decision was questioned and commented on.
I wouldn't mind a normal, 2-3 hour visit, I just don't want to spend every day for a week with her. I'm planning on telling her that because our family is making a big transition with a new baby and my daughter needs some time to get used to it, we are asking for no guests. She is going to hit the fan when I tell her, and I feel guilty about it. Anyone in the same or similar situation?